After endless hours of reading self-help books, blogs, and watching videos online, I have finally come up with my own tips on how you can become a better person. Before I chose to discuss this topic with you, the reader, I made sure to practice these in my daily life to be sure they actually work. I have always been extremely self conscious, basically always worrying about what people thought of me or if I was always making the right choices. Honestly, living my life this way was making me completely miserable. I finally decided to start looking for blogs solely based on self-help, which is when I came across Gala Darling and Ariel Bloomer. These two powerful women each suggested a various amount of books, which has helped me in more ways than one.
So, what are we waiting for? Let's get started!
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Enjoy Life More By Making It Less Miserable
First things first, you actually have to decide that you want to get better and that you want to be happy. For those of you suffering from a mental illness like myself, do not let that stop you! It does not single you out from being happy, you too can be happy. If there is ever a moment when you are feeling down, hopeless, lost, and any other negative emotion, ask yourself this: Why am I feeling this way? Did something happen internally or externally to trigger these emotions? This is where you need to really tap into your brain and visualize events leading up to this point. If it helps, grab a pen and paper and jot it all down! Another thing you can try to do is simply think happy thoughts. I know it sounds crazy, but it does work. Just ask yourself what activities can you do that make you happy. A few examples are writing, arts and crafts, music, or going for a walk in the park. On top of this always be sure to remind yourself that you can do anything and that you are capable of much more than you know. You can consciously reprogram yourself to be less miserable.
How To Stop Hating Yourself and Learn to Love Yourself
Let's admit it, we all know the culprit is how we view ourselves. You need to be come aware of any self-loathing that you may do on a day to day basis. Begin to practice by not saying mean things to yourself, such as "Man, I'm too big for this" or "Ugh, if I wear this eye shadow people will think I look like crap." Just stop, tell yourself you look awesome and if you love it, then rock it! If you can catch yourself thinking these mean things, quickly stop yourself and replace it with something more positive. An example would be, "I'm seriously so damn awesome and I look good today!" It sounds crazy at first, but just do it..you will thank me later. Most importantly, live a life you can love.
How You Could Ruin Your Life and How to Put an End to All the Madness
We have already discussed this, but try and avoid self sabotage. Negative ideas can impact your feelings greatly, which can lead you hating your day and eventually ruining your life. Next, you can back track a bit and see where you made mistakes in your life. Try and learn from these mistakes to avoid any negative consequences. Soon, try to get yourself to where you feel most comfortable being happy. Once you are ready you can try these few ideas to put an end to all the madness:
1. When you wake up in the morning, just lay there and breathe. Try not to check your phone right away, just leave it alone for a few seconds or minutes. Treat your morning as sacred practice or as a ritual.
2. This one is tough, but stop complaining. If you are stuck in traffic for example and you are not going to be late to where ever it is you are going, just blast some music and enjoy the time alone.
3. Get out there and make friends with like minded people. Try to avoid those who are always in a foul mood or those who constantly radiate negative energy. You do not want to be sucked back into that after all your hard work!
A Few Last Words...
I hope this inspired you to try and make the most of not only yourself, but your life as well. Try and put these ideas into action and live the best life that you can possibly have. Be around those who inspire you and motivate you. It does not have to stop just here. You too can keep growing as a person.
