For those who do not know me, I am Blake Winslow. I am a County boy. What does that mean? Well, I was born and raised in Aroostook County, in the Great State of Maine. There are endless blue skies, and trees everywhere. We are very rural but very kind.
First, I must tell you about me (a small synopsis, I swear!) in order to understand where I am coming from.
I grew up in humble beginnings, with a mom who was working multiple part-time jobs - plus college - plus raising me, she was incredibly busy. She did receive and use state assistance. We did live in public housing. From her, I learned strong professionalism and work ethic, as she worked for the City of Presque Isle as their Human Resources Director for quite a few years after her degree in Business Administration. She married my now father when I was about 6 or 7, and they got divorced when I was about 13. Through the difficult process of the divorce, and going though physical changes, I had a hard time connecting to my peers. I was not in a good place if you can imagine middle school, (which thorough my eyes is not the best time for anyone).
In middle school, because I had a hard time connecting with my peers, I did not have many friends. I did not get involved, and I did not care. In high school, I broke out my bubble a little more each year. Again, I was not active my Freshman and Sophomore years. In my Sophomore year, I became involved in Youth in Government (YiG), at he request of my US History teacher. I mean, I had an interest in politics so I was thinking "why not?"
I had a blast. So I returned to YiG for the rest of my high school career and became more confident in myself, as I learned how to find better commonalities with my peers, and make new friends. Not only did YiG help me gain that new found confidence (because I saw it was a great opportunity) it gave me purpose. "I want to help others!"
As a Winslow, I am raised to help others, but I never knew how I could. I didn't see myself as intelligent growing up, and I was a short, scrawny kid. I didn't think I had the intelligence nor the strength to help those in need. I was being bullied, but I could not help those being bullied. If I wanted to help a girl out, I was too nervous to talk to her. Do you catch my drift? I did not have any confidence in myself to get involved in anything.
Senior year was my turning point. By that time, I got done with YiG, and started to get involved with my community and my school. I contemplated running for class president but decided it wasn't in my interest. Who wants to plan reunions any? Those are a hassle.
I got involved in my class, and I was happy to see my peers recognize that.
Let's backtrack to my sophomore year... I got a call from a young candidate for the Maine State House at 15 years old asking me to get involved in his campaign (because he needed volunteers). I shouted with joy "YES!" As we end the conversation, I ran to my mother's room and said "I'm actually going to make a difference! *insert his name* called me to help him out on his first campaign!" She said, "I know, I gave his father your number." Boy, was I happy. It was also my first parade ever to participate in (where I'm not wearing that totally rad marching band uniform for school).
I see that as my launching point into politics.
Let's fast forward to Summer of 2014 to just after I graduated. I attended Dirigo Boys State as a first-year counselor, after being called at the last minute to do so! That was a blast. Soon after, I got a call about an interest in being an intern for the Maine Republican Party from one of their staff. I said, "Yeah, I am interested." "Awesome," he said. "So and so forwarded me your name and told me you're a great worker," He continued. "Glad to have you on board. You start Monday at 9 a.m."
You know who the guy was that forwarded my name? That candidate I met at 15 who then became a state representative. That solidified my activeness in our political process.
By then, my bubble was GONE. I was out and about, doing things for my community and being a leader. Currently, I serve as a leader of the Republican Party in my state and as president of my school's student government association. In order for me to get out there, I had to push myself. Because of my awkwardness, and struggle to connect with my peers, I had to search for commonalities that they will appreciate about me. My advice to my friends out there who are too nervous to get involved, I say push yourself out of your comfort zone. That is the only way you can grow as a person and become more confident in myself. Push yourself to desire the things you want in life. My desire is to go about how I was raised: to help people. My family is known across our small community for helping people. I am now known in my community as a helping hand. I work very hard every day, and I work with some of the best people on the planet in either politics, my professional life, or in my educational life. I would not trade it for anything. Getting out of my bubble was forcing myself to get out in the world is the best decision I made. I am happy, active, and I have embraced my faith, for I am active in my church as well. I love helping people, and that was because I left my comfort zone.
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11 Things Summer Nannies Can Relate To
There are plenty of obstacles that come when taking care of kids, but it's a very rewarding experience.
As a college student, being a nanny over the summer is both enjoyable and challenging. Underneath the seemingly perfect trips to the pool or countless hours spent playing Monopoly are the obstacles that only nannies will understand. Trading in your valuable summer vacation in return for three months spent with a few children less than half your age may seem unappealing, but so many moments make it rewarding. For my fellow summer nannies out there, I know you can relate.
1. You get excited when the parents purchase season passes to the pool.
If the kids get a pool pass, so do you. It's not exactly a leisurely swim when you have to keep an eye on the kids, but it's a good opportunity to work on your tan and get out of the house. Plus, a day at the pool tires out the kids.2. You've become friends with the stay-at-home moms in town.
You may just be the nanny, but that doesn't stop the other moms from wanting to include you in their gossip sessions or carpool rotations.
3. You get a chance to eat "kid foods" again.
Dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets, character mac & cheese, you name it.4. You've traded in your cute purse for a large tote bag.
The only type of bag that can hold a plethora of snacks, sand toys, and extra clothes for the kids to change into after they swim.
5. You have at least one car seat in your backseat.
You've been given the extra booster seat for running errands with the kids during the week. Next thing you know, it's Saturday night and your friends are laughing over the crammed backseat, car seat and all.
6. Their nap time is your happy time.
If you can somehow manage to get all the kids napping at the same time, major props to you. Now you can enjoy a few hours to yourself (or maybe even take a nap of your own!).
7. Lunch time can be a disaster.
When they can't agree on a meal or when you don't make it exactly like their mom does...
8. You have to play the same board games repeatedly.
"Sure, we can play Monopoly again for the hundredth time in a row," said no sane person ever.9. You catch yourself using the same lines your parents once told you.
When you ask them to clean their room and they ask "why?!" you can finally reply with "because I said so," just like your mom would say to you.
10. Your "mom-mode" kicks in at times.
Forcing the kids to wear sunscreen while they play outside is such a motherly thing to do, and you love it.
11. Your heart melts a little when they do something cute.
And then you're reminded why you have the best summer job in the world and wouldn't trade it for anything.To The Girl Who Falls Too Fast, Never Be Ashamed Of How Hard You Love
Love hard, every day, and never be ashamed.
If it hurts now, it'll hurt again. Not because you're gullible or naive, only because you fall fast, hard, and you do it every time.
We fall each and every time with the complete and utter confidence that someone will be there to catch us. Now that person we SWORE we were never going to fall for has our hearts, and every time we see them our palms start sweating. The butterflies in our stomach start to soar and our hearts are entirely too close to bursting out of our chests.
The downside is however, we're too forgiving. We give second and third chances because we love strongly, we try to fix the broken parts. Even if it would be easier leaving the broken pieces, than picking them up and slicing our hand. Falling too fast means seeing the best in them and hoping for the best. We love like it's the last thing we'll ever do, and sometimes it hurts us in the end, however, I don't think we care.
To the girls who fall too fast, I hope you know it's not your fault it didn't work out, don't put yourself down, don't blame yourself.
You get attached too easily and love too strongly, that's not a bad thing. It means your hearts are a few sizes bigger than the rest. One day someone will be there to catch you when you fall, and you'll love them harder than you've loved any of the others.
To the girls who fall too fast, never say you're sorry for feeling what you feel. Your feelings don't need to be explained. You're allowed to feel. It may be too much for him or her, but it's never unacceptable. You're allowed to love as strongly as you love, never apologize for that.
To the girls who fall too fast, remember to pick yourself up after a heartbreak. Your heart may not mold back together perfectly but it will eventually. If they weren't there to pick up the pieces, then do it yourself. Eat a pint of ice cream and cry, it's OK.
Not everyone you fall for is going to end up being the love of your life (even if you believed that they would be).
To the girls who fall too fast, don't lose hope. When you find someone who will love every part of you, as strongly and sincerely as you love them. It'll be the best feeling in the world. When you hear the words "I love you" and they are spoken in the most sincere way, it'll make your heart soar higher than any crush did before.
To the girls who fall too fast, love hard, every day, and never be ashamed.
10 Things Only Equestrians Understand
Yes, it IS a sport. Yes, I fall all the time. No, I do not ride in jeans with a cowgirl hat on.
Growing up I have always wanted to own a horse. My grandparents own a well known equestrian facility in Georgia, so I have been riding since I was born. A bond between a person and their horse is a bond so strong that it cannot be broken. Everywhere I went I wanted to be around horses, even forcing my family to go on trail rides during vacations. Horses have been a part of my life for as long as I can remember has taught me great responsibility, as well as 14 things that all equestrians can relate to.
1. The looks you get when you wear your riding attire in public
2. Horses spook at anything and everything
3. Your horse deciding to show how disobedient it can be right in front of the judges
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4. The look your horse gives you after making you fall
Thanks for that.
5. Trying to take a picture of your horse....
Only for your horse to do this.
6. Giving your horse a bath only for them to roll in dirt right after
7. Ponies
The most stubborn creatures of all time.
8. Walking through a tack shop is like a kid in a toy store
Saddles, bridles, and boots, oh my!
9. When someone tells your horseback riding is not a sport
You try sitting on a one-ton animal with a mind of its own and tell it to jump over a 3-foot fence!
10. Having your horse as your best friend, and having it any other way
Horseback riding is something every little girl dreams of doing, and I know it is something I will do for the rest of my life.
To The Burnt-Out College Student, Keep Going
When you're struggling to keep afloat, keep going.
College is super hard. Between working, studying, and having a social life, it feels like a struggle to just keep afloat.
I understand. When you feel like your drowning and there's no way to stay afloat I understand that it feels like everyone else is doing just fine. I understand all the frustration, long nights in the library, and that feeling that you want to just throw in the towel. I understand that sometimes it's too hard to get out of bed because your brain is already filled with too much information to remember. I understand because I am also feeling pretty burnt out.
Sometimes picking up a pencil to do homework in the library feels like picking up a car. Sometimes I don't even make it to the library to study because I have no motivation to walk there. I'm in my junior year and my advisor has recently told me I am not graduating on time and basically my GPA sucks. I cried in her office and for two days after that. I work two jobs sometimes seven days a week. I spend my free time in the library trying to submit my homework on time. On my drive to my second job, I listen to a nutrition podcast about what's actually happening in the field. I've been drowning since the first day of classes. Keeping afloat is a daily struggle that I'm getting really tired of doing. But I'm going to anyway.
Everyone in college is feeling burnt out to some degree. Graduating "on time" doesn't happen for everyone. Sometimes your GPA sucks because you have a lot on your plate. Whether it's family issues, taking classes year round, a stressful job, lots of classwork, or just the stress you put on yourself, everyone is feeling burnt out. And I know you feel like you're the only one. Trust me sometimes I feel alone in that too. But after graduation, you'll be thankful for all the stress and anxiety you had in college. When you reach your goals in life you'll look back and be grateful things happened the way they did because you came out stronger.
It's okay to have days that you contemplate dropping out. But acknowledge that and keep going. Break up your work into manageable chunks and keep going. Buy a planner and write down all your assignments and the time they're due so you can time manage better and keep going. Clock into your job and do what you have to do and keep going. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going.
No Matter How Challenging School Gets, You Have To Put Your Health First — A Degree Won't Mean Anything If You're Dead
Panicking and pulling all-nighters will not allow you to get an A.
Some of the best advice I've ever received was from my social studies teacher in sophomore year of high school. He stated, "If you don't know it at midnight, you're not going to know it for the 8 a.m. exam, so get some sleep."
It's such a simple piece of advice, but it holds so much accuracy and it's something that the majority of college students need to hear and listen to. "All-nighters" are a commonality on college campuses in order to cram in studying for an exam that is typically the next day.
Although it seems like you're obtaining so much valuable information in that period of time, the lack of sleep most likely is causing you to retain little to no information at all. There's a reason that doctors recommend a certain amount of sleep, especially for students, because that's the amount they need to function properly throughout their school day.
Putting aside even half an hour a day to dedicate to that subject could alleviate the pressure you feel right before the exam because you'll feel comfortable and familiar with the material. This could benefit what is known as the mental health portion of the health triangle.
In the eighth grade, my health teacher lectured on for multiple classes about something called the "health triangle." It consists of three components; mental, social, and physical health. The message of the lectures was always that the triangle contains a domino effect, with each part of it affecting the others. If one section is displeased, the others will follow in their footsteps.
This lesson is one I have valued for over five years because while carrying out my everyday activities, I've realized how valid this theory is.
Many college kids feel as though they need to stay inside the library or their dorm during any free time in order to do homework or study. This will negatively affect both the mental and physical aspects of the triangle, therefore throwing everything off. Yes, the majority of a college student's time should be spent performing school-related tasks, but it's important for students to go out and be entertained even an hour per week in order to not completely lose their mind.
By "going out," in no way do I mean parties, bars, or anything related to that. Even something as simple as sitting in your friend's dorm and talking about life for an hour can reboot your brain to prepare it to return to studying.
In terms of the physical segment of the health triangle, many people think of this as just diet and exercise. While that is partly true, it also involves personal hygiene.
Many college kids eat their sorrows away with the junk food that they're surrounded by on campus. Others skip most meals in order to have that extra 20 minutes to study for their midterms. In either case, that isn't good for your body and surely isn't going to help you in your classes. Proper meals give you the energy you need to finish studying for that midterm you have coming up.
I've witnessed so many students walk around campus with their hair unbrushed, haven't showered in days, haven't bothered changing out of their clothes from the previous day, and practicing other gross habits. Trust me when I say that it's okay, and even important, to set aside an hour to practice proper personal hygiene. It will allow you to feel better about yourself and put you in a better mood to get your work done.
Although worrying is inevitable, in no way will it help you get a better grade, but could instead make your grades suffer. We've probably all looked at a test at least once in our lives and completely blanked on all of the answers simply because we were so scared about the grade.
Deducing stress could be helped by all of the advice already stated, time management, office hours, and tutoring. It's okay to ask for help, whether that be from a peer, a teacher, or upperclassmen. College isn't meant to be easy, but there are ways you can make it easier.