This article is for my single ladies and men... Even though I can only really speak from the female perspective, but these might work for men too. How to get a date on tinder? People ask me this question often because if you know me personally you would know that I met my fiance on tinder. The famous hook up app that can sometimes turn into something permanent. First off I'd like to state that my opinion on hook up culture is do what you want to do, it's your body and your life if that's what you want to do go for it. But I know there are some girls out there who are looking for a relationship and unfortunately with our mediate communication society, prince charming doesn't just strike up a conversation in the super market anymore. Online dating has grown so fast that it seems like the best route to go. Tinder being one of the most popular dating app means there will be a lot of single people on the app.
Profile Photos
First photos are soo important because they are the first impression that the other person see's. So making your first photo your all time best photo, like that photo where your mom, best friend, pastor, who ever says you look good in that photo. Six photo define your first impression, I personally made sure that I used a variety of full body photos and good selfie. Group photos... These can be good if it is maybe your third or last photo, having a group photo as your first photo can be confusing and less likely to get matches. Also don't ever over edit your photos, a filter is fine, but please don't be like me a delete your pupils... Yeah I said it I used to delete my pupils out of my photos... It was creepy and just strange. So keep your photos under edited and as real life as possible.
The Bio
Writing a bio can seem tricky because you want to express yourself but also not give to much information right off the bat. Now the likely hood of a guy reading your bio is slim but ask him if he did. It'll make the conversation more interesting and you will work harder on your bio. The key to a good bio is stating what you want out of Tinder, whether that's hook ups, dates, or a long term relationship. Let people know it will help weed out that people you don't even want to talk to just because they are looking for something different. Next you want to state what you like to do, whether that's eating, sports, or sleeping. Typically I would try and say the most interesting that I like to do. Then state a fun fact, whether that's a funny quote you like, and random fact about you, something you've done that is interesting etc. Reading your matches bios before you swipe right can really help you decide if they are honestly worth your time and same goes for them.
The Conversation
Ask the questions you want to know, how tall are they? What's their favorite color? How was their day? Asking questions is how you get to know someone so don't be afraid to ask what you honestly want to know. It will not only make you feel more confident about possibly going out with this person but also keep the conversation going. When to ask for the phone number? It's also a gamble depending on how the conversation goes, if things seem to be going well and you are feeling comfortable don't be afraid to ask first. But if they ask you for your number and you don't feel comfortable you are not obligated to give them any more of your information. ALWAYS ask for snap chat!!!! I cannot stress this enough, snap chat is one of the greatest social medias because there's no way to not be honest on how you look. If the person you are talking to doesn't have a snap chat,face time, or Skype then please don't go on a date with them. Please don't go an meet them no matter how much they try and persuade you. Besides those crucial aspects just keep the conversation light and don't be afraid to control the conversation if you feel like it is getting out of hand.
Going On A Date
If you meet someone off of Tinder who you are willing to meet up with and have confirmed that they are not a catfish. Then yes go ahead, get yourself all ready, make plans, and do it. If you live with a roommate my best advice is have the stranger come and meet them too. Just so they know their face and can tell you before you go out if he/she seems dangerous. During my tinder dating days I made sure that either my roommate or a friend met the person I was going on a date with before we went out. Good first date ideas are... Get ice cream, donuts, dinner, lunch, breakfast, go bowling, go ice skating, go go karting, go to an arcade, if your over the age of 21 go to drinks, go for a walk. Bad first date ideas.. A movie, Netflix, a party, a large event, a sporting event. All of these are bad ideas because they don't give you time to talk to your date and get to know them. Be honest on your date don't let someone persuade you into a second date if you don't want to. Don't kiss, or do anything else that you don't want to do no matter what. This is a first date and you are just as much in control as the other person. Be safe. Have fun. Meet as many people as you want. And don't stress to much about the initial meet up. They are just a nervous as you.
Tinder can be a great way to meet people and either date or just get to know them. Even if the first person you meet doesn't work out, don't give up there are a lot of people out there. And everyone has someone who understands and connects with them we each just meet them at different times in our lives. When I met my fiance I had been on so many failed dates that either ended quickly or seemed like something good was coming from it and then it just fell apart. But when I met him I wasn't looking for anything serious, I was just on yet another date. Yet one date turned into four and the next thing I knew we were dating. He was visiting me in Cincinnati, and now we live together and are engaged. People have asked me if I'm happy with my decision to use Tinder to find a date and in the end a husband. And I just say yes, I am beyond happy that I did. Tinder gave me away to meet people in an area I had just moved to and also get to know some of the great places in Akron.
