At one point or another, everyone has felt like they were not good enough. Whether you don't think you're pretty enough, smart enough, friendly enough, or whatever enough, I know first hand that it can be tough to convince yourself otherwise. Sometimes, it seems like that nagging voice in your head reminding you of your insecurities will never relent, but I am here to tell you about some tried and true methods to make that voice finally shut up.
1. Work out.
I know, this doesn't seem like the best way to remind yourself you're pretty. (I know I'm not at my most attractive after a workout.) However, when you workout, your brain releases endorphins, the chemical that makes you feel happy, and therefore less likely to beat yourself up. In fact, working out for 20 minutes can boost your mood for 12 hours after. So why you should you workout? Because science.
2. Make a list of what you're thankful for.
Sometimes, it helps to get outside of your own head for a little while. It's always good to be grateful for the blessings in your life and thinking of them may just improve your mind state.
3. Look in the mirror and list three things you like about yourself.
Is Obama doing that in this picture? I'd like to think so because this is especially helpful if you you're prone to comparing yourself to others. Maybe you think your hair isn't long enough, or your waist isn't slim enough, or any number of things aren't good enough. Look in the mirror and list three things you like about yourself, independent of anyone else.
4. List three things you like about yourself that are not physical.
Do you excel in school? Are you a good friend? Are you athletic? Write it down. Those are all great qualities to have, and something you should be proud of.
5. Call a friend.
My mom told me that you should never say anything about yourself that you wouldn't say about your best friend. The reverse is also true- your best friend would never say the things you say about yourself when you mess up. To remind yourself of that, call your best friend. At the very least, you'll get some good laughs in.
6. Do something you enjoy.
Whatever it is you like to do, make some time to do it. You can sing, draw, listen to music or even dance -- you don't have to be good at any of it either!
7. Look at some pictures in which you are killing it.
Sometimes you need to be reminded how fabulous you are. As Beyonce once said, "I slay" and she's right. Own it.
Feeling like you're not good enough at some point in life is inevitable. But the good news here is that you are good enough, and sometimes you just need to be reminded of it. I know first hand that it isn't easy to break the cycle of self-deprecation, but the more you try to stop it, the easier it becomes. If nothing else, just remember that you are good enough and you slay.
