How to plan a first date | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post

6 Tips For Planning Your First Date

How to make your first date as stress free as possible during, before, and after.

20
6 Tips For Planning Your First Date

1. When picking the date

Photo by Bailey Hall on Unsplash

First off, to have a first date you need one so who's it gonna be? The cute boy from Spanish class, the boy next door, or your intramural basketball teammate?

When you get asked on a date, make sure they truly seem interested in what you are. You do not want to go into a date with someone who you just know that doesn't want what you do. At the same time, if you truly feel it then go with your gut, just be careful.

A first date is an important one as it will help set the tone for the rest of your relationship.

2. When picking the time

Photo by Alex Holyoake on Unsplash

Trust me, we all get busy! College is a stressful time in our lives, so dates should not stress you out even more. They should be all about getting to know the person and having a good time together.

With this in mind, pick a time when you are both free. Do not shove the date in between classes or after work. Weekends are your best friend here since you both most likely have enough time to hang out with each other.

3. When picking out an outfit

Maybe not the best look for a hike?

Photo by Amber Kipp on Unsplash

Sticking to casual clothes is always the best option here.

Girls, go with a top that makes you feel good and is comfortable with some nice jeans or a skirt. You for sure do not need to wear heels here since they are not the comfiest option in your closet. By the end of the day, you'll be thanking me when you're feet are not killing you.

Boys, go with a button-up or maybe a nice flannel with some nice jeans or khaki. But all in all, everyone should stick to what makes you feel good and that you are comfortable in. If not, it will cause you undue stress.

Making a good impression on your date is important, and you want your date to find you attractive, but you also want them to see the real you, not the fake you.

4. Getting ready for the date

Photo by Reinaldo Kevin on Unsplash

Are you still worried? No worries, it's normal to be a little nervous a few days before or the day of your date.

First off, breathe in and out, take lots of deep breaths. Once you have done that, do something you love that helps you center yourself. Whether it be yoga, reading a book, or talking to your best friend, just try to calm yourself down and get excited. Play some of your favorite music while you get ready and put yourself in the best mood possible so you can thoroughly enjoy your date.

5. Do not compare this date to the last one

Photo by Wiktor Karkocha on Unsplash

Yes, there are bad dates and good dates. However, just because you have had one bad experience does not mean this time will be the same. Have an open mind about it and go in excited to get to know this new person. Who knows, this could your 'person' or they could turn out to be a new best friend. Either way, you're gaining something.

Even if the date doesn't work out, you've learned something new about yourself. Think to yourself, "Why did it go wrong?". Then next time, you can know what to do differently or maybe he or she just wasn't your type. No matter what happens, just know you deserve the best and do not let one date discourage you.

6. Have respect for your date

Photo by Pablo Merchán Montes on Unsplash

No matter how the date goes, you need to be respectful throughout the entire thing and after. During the date, some hard topics may come up, such as politics or religion, but you have to remain civilized and appreciate that the other person is opening enough to tell you about them.

If your date doesn't kiss on the first date, give them a polite hug and keep talking. We are all different and we all deserve respect, even if you do not agree with what they are saying or believe. That respect extends after the date. Do not make your date wait days or weeks to hear back from you. If you do not want to see them again, be honest. It may make them upset, but it is the least hurtful to both parties in the end and allows each to move on.

First dates should be fun and you should just enjoy yourself. No one is saying you have to marry this person, so do not freak out. You got this and you deserve to be happy!

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Relationships

10 Facts All People In A Large Family Can Confirm During The Holiday Season

The holiday season can be the best and most stressful time of the year, especially when more people are involved.

821
kids jumping

The holidays are full of lights, sweets, sweaters, and your favorite movies. There's nothing quite like this period from the beginning of December through January. Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Years. The fun of it all.

I don't know about you but with my large Italian family something is always going on during this season. It can be the most wonderful time of the year while also being the most hectic. These are a few things you know if your family is anything like mine during this time.

Keep Reading...Show less
10 things that happen the second Thanksgiving is over
reference.com

To those who celebrate, you just spent an entire day cooking an elaborate meal with all of your favorite foods. You probably ate your body weight in pumpkin pie and mashed potatoes. What happens now? Oh yea, Christmas. It’s time to take out all of the decorations and Christmas themed things that have been sitting in the attic since last year; it’s time to make a reappearance. So, here are 10 things that happen the second Thanksgiving is over.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

18 Things I Want To Do Now That I'm 18

I'm technically an adult, so I'm legally required to live a little, right?

4204
Happy Birthday Cake

For the entirety of my high school career, I was always seen as the goody-two-shoes. I never got in trouble with a teacher, I kept stellar grades, and when I wasn't doing extracurricular activities, I was at home studying. Even when I did go out, it was usually with a bunch of fellow band geeks. The night would end before 11:00 PM and the only controversial activity would be a fight based on who unfairly won a round of Apples-to-Apples when someone else clearly had a better card (I promise I'm not still holding a grudge).

Now that I'm officially an adult, I want to pursue some new things. I want to experience life in a way that I never allowed myself to do prior to entering college. These are the years that I'm supposed to embark on a journey of self-discovery, so what better way to do that than to create a bucket list?

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

10 Life Lessons from Christmas Classics

The holiday classics that shaped my life

2589
10 Life Lessons from Christmas Classics
Flickr

The holiday season is full of stress, debt, and forced conversation. While we rush through the month of December, it's important to take a step back and enjoy the moments before they're gone. Most families love to watch Christmas movies, but these beloved films provide more than entertainment. Here are 10 life lessons that I've learned from the holiday classics we watch every year.

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

15 Mind-Bending Riddles

Hopefully they will make you laugh.

201955
 Ilistrated image of the planet and images of questions
StableDiffusion

I've been super busy lately with school work, studying, etc. Besides the fact that I do nothing but AP chemistry and AP economics, I constantly think of stupid questions that are almost impossible to answer. So, maybe you could answer them for me, and if not then we can both wonder what the answers to these 15 questions could be.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments