Unfortunately, I know what it's like to be cheated on. I also know what it's like to take someone back who has cheated on me just for it to go up in flames.
No one deserves to be cheated on and feel like they aren't good enough for their significant other, because once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't let their sweet talking make you take them back if they aren't going to make the effort to show you that they're sorry.
Words aren't enough in situations like this. Here's a list of ten reasons why you shouldn't take back your cheating ex.
1. They're all talk.
Actions speak louder than words!
2. They have cheated more than once.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. If they've done it more than once chances are they will do it again.
3. They can’t stop flirting with other people.
This should have been a huge red flag before they even cheated. A big no-no in my book.
4. They try to blame their cheating on you.
Their actions are not your fault.
5. They try to make you feel guilty.
They shouldn't be making you feel like you're the reason they cheated. It was their mistake, not yours.
6. They're still in contact with the person they cheated with.
That's just like, not cool.
7. They try to blame the person they cheated with for their actions.
It takes two to tango buddy boy.
8. They don't try to build your trust after they've cheated.
If they're literally doing nothing other than telling you they're sorry, cut them loose.
9. They don't show any signs of wanting to change or being sorry about what they did.
They should be making the biggest effort of their lives to show you how sorry they are and be doing anything to make it better. Things like this take time to heal, so if they aren't willing to put the time and effort in, sayonara.
10. You're afraid they're going to keep cheating and can't trust them anymore.
If you're not going to be able to trust them again, let them go. You're going to cause yourself more hurt in the long run worrying about what they're doing and being paranoid they're going to betray your trust once again.
I think one of the worst things someone in a relationship can do is cheat. It leaves your significant-other feeling worthless and like they weren't good enough, just so you could have one night with someone else. If you're gonna cheat, don't be in a relationship. And if you're in a relationship with a cheater, ask yourself if they're really worth it. Chances are, they aren't.
