Have you ever experienced moments when you felt like you were the only one that cared? I do all the time. I hate it. I hate to feel as though I am the only one that cares. It makes me feel debilitated. Like I am stuck between a rock and hard place. Don’t get me wrong, I can improve as well. So in a way, I am writing this to help myself get better too.
Be a good listener: Just listen. When you friend needs to vent, just let them. You don’t have to have the best advice to give them. Sometimes listening is all it takes to ease someone’s mind.
Give, don’t just take: It is known fact that in some relationships you are going to need help, but also be willing to help them in return. The relationship needs to be 50/50.
Be supportive: Sometimes people want to hear that they are valued. I am not saying that you have to be corny 24/7, but let your friends know that they are appreciated and lift them up every once in awhile. It is good for their ego, and will most likely help them be better friends to you in return.
Put your foot down: Don't let anyone walk all over you. It doesn't matter if you have known the person from childhood, don't allow that to happen. If you feel like you are not getting the same treatment that you are putting into the relationship, it may be time to reevaluate the friendship. Sit down talk it out. Let them know what you expect out of the friendship and vice versa. Be sure that a real friend is what they are looking for.
Being a friend is really simple. It is not a selfish act because that is actually the quickest way to lose friends. You have to learn that a friendship is a give and take relationship. If you realize that you are doing the most work to hold on to a friendship, then the friendship is probably not worth having, to begin with.
