To the woman who worries about what people think of her. To the “plus size”, thick, full-figured, curvy, woman, you are beautiful.

I know how you feel. Growing up I was always overweight. I was always picked on for my weight and picked on for what I wore. I was never the skinniest girl in my friend group and I never really looked good in clothes that were considered to be cute at the time. It affected a lot of my self-confidence and made me doubt if I would ever be beautiful. Until one day it changed. I was tired of letting people’s comments get to me and I decided I was beautiful. I learned how to love myself and my body. Everyone learns how to on their own time and in their own way, but here are a few reminders.

Your body does not define who you are.

You are beautiful! Full figured women are women, and just as every woman on this earth they are beautiful. You are not “gorgeous for a bigger woman,” you are gorgeous no matter what! Many people think that to be beautiful you need to have a small waist and only weigh just as much as what is considered to be socially acceptable. That is not true by any means. People who are full figured are still capable of doing exactly what everyone else can do and more. Love your accomplishments and love your figure, because you are you, and I wouldn’t want you to be anyone else.

Beauty is not measured in pounds.

Just because the number on the scale is bigger than what you hoped for, that does not mean that you are not beautiful. Do not think that because your clothes are bigger in size that you are not worthy of achieving whatever you want. Size is just a number; you are not defined by that number. Want to eat that cheeseburger? Eat that cheeseburger! Want to go on a run or workout? Go on a run and rock that workout! A pound is a pound, everyone is different and not the same person. Beauty is not how much you weigh, but how much you love yourself. Your size may change and vary but your self-confidence doesn’t have to. Life is more enjoyed when a number on a scale is just a number and the person is celebrated for their true beauty.

Just because you are thicker and full-figured does not mean you are ugly.

I know the feeling of “that look” people give you when they judge you for how you look. I know how it feels when you get turned down by a guy because you are too “fat”. I know the feeling of being told that you need to lose weight because “if you were skinnier you would be pretty”. People who think that way or act that way just say those things because they are insecure about themselves. You need to do what makes you feel beautiful. Wear that bikini. Rock that crop top. Flaunt those shorty shorts. Do not focus on other’s negativity that you forget how beautiful you are inside and out.

Love your body because you deserve to be happy.

Your body is a temple and you are a goddess no matter what anyone may think. Next time someone calls you ugly or fat just remember that the only thing that matters is what you truly think of yourself. Everyone has rolls, everyone has something they do not like about themselves. You choose what you like and do not like. But coming from a girl who has been through hell and back, decide what makes you happy and live your life like you want to. Do not ever look down on yourself. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, embrace your shape and enjoy your sexy. Love your body because it is the only one you are going to get and it is just as beautiful as you are.

If your heart is in the wrong, then you too are in the wrong.

A person can be super skinny, fit, and even super popular, but if they have to shame others on their looks, than that is shameful itself. No matter a person’s size, if someone thinks they are superior because of their body type, they should remember to not put people down. Beauty is not skin deep, beauty is within. Please remember to love everyone, as everyone should feel confident and beautiful. Remember that everyone is beautiful and that everyone deserves to never feel ashamed for who they truly are.

With love,

A plus size, big, curvy, thick, full-figured woman who just wants you to love yourself.