Some people are more caring than others, just by their general nature. In the same way, other individuals have a harder time being considerate of those around them. If you or someone you know falls into that category, have no fear. I will teach you how to be considerate of others in four simple steps. You will get the hang of it in no time.
1. Ask other people what their needs are instead of just taking care of your own needs.
This can apply to a lot of things, so I will give a few examples of how this works. Let’s say that you asked your friends to meet up with you at a certain location to go shopping. You know where the location is, but a few of your friends don’t. In order to be considerate, you need to ask each of your friends if they need directions or if they need a ride. Another example of this would be if you were going to the store to pick up a few things for the house. Some of your family members need things from the store too, so by asking them what they need before you leave, you are considering them and are being a good person.
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2. Make sure that your friends and family members are informed of things beforehand, instead of having the information dumped on them last minute.
If you expect your friends to show up early to your birthday party to help decorate, let them know at least a week or two ahead of time so they can plan for that. If you have to go out of town for some reason and you need a friend of yours to watch your dog, give him or her adequate notice. Also, accept the fact that they have the right to kindly refuse. Do not just expect people to drop everything for you when you have not given them enough time to prepare for whatever it is you are asking them to do. Realize that people have their own lives, and respect that fact.
3. Inform people ahead of time if they are about to put themselves in a potentially frustrating or inconvenient situation that you are a part of.
Now, obviously you won’t always know if individuals are walking into a potentially frustrating or inconvenient situation. However, if the situation or issue is related to you or something you have asked them to do, it is your responsibility to warn others of those things. For instance, I have a baby that is three months old. If any friends of mine come to visit or stay the night, I will warn them (at least the first time) that my son could start pitching a fit at any time. That way, they can make an informed decision, and if they do come over they know what they signed up for.
4. Inform people if you are running late.
Your time is not the only time that matters. Don’t waste other people’s time if you can help it. Now, if your phone dies or something and you literally can’t relay the message, fine. It’s annoying, but it’s not your fault. However, for the rest of you, please say something.
Warning: Do not text and drive.
