It happens far too much, and far too easily. Someone gets their heart broken—experiences some sort of pain or loss. And now that person who once wore their heart on their sleeve is the last to show their feelings. A hard shell covers any sort of vulnerability. Yet, underneath all of the hardness, is the caring side still waiting to be uncovered.
Just because they aren't saying it, doesn't mean they aren't feeling it—their way is just a bit different..
1. Although they have walls built, they are there for a reason.
Once you've experienced any type of hurt, it's easy to act like you don't have feelings. People with a hard outer shell are quick to act like they don't need anybody in their life, especially ones who don't seem to need them... Many times this is just their way of not letting their guard down. Stick around, and chances are you'll break down these walls.
2. They appreciate not being smothered all of the time.
They are not going to want to be with you 24/7. As a matter of fact, if you smother them- they're likely to walk away. Give them their space and they'll be drawn to you. All they need is a little time to build their trust with you.
3. They would much rather show you than tell you.
It's no secret that it's hard to put your feelings out in the open after you've been screwed over before. Most times people see those with a hard shell as having no feelings at all. This is not the case. Instead of openly telling you how they feel, they'll show you with their actions...
4. ...which is why they'll often surprise you with thoughtful gestures.
Just because they're not good with talking about their feelings, doesn't mean they'll miss the opportunity to show you. It could be as simple as sending you a text when she's out with the girls, or surprising you with your favorite candy. Either way, you know you haven't left their mind.
5. They know which battles are worth fighting over.
They aren't going to argue with you over small, petty things. Chances are they'll let a lot of things go. But, when they do bring something up it's because it's really bothering them.
6. But, if they do fight with you it's because they truly care.
They're prepared for people to walk out of their life at the drop of a dime. But, if they try to fix things with you, it's because they are willing to fight for you to stay and genuinely care about your relationship.
7. There's a lot more than what meets the eye.
It's easy to assume that those who don't automatically show their feelings are "cold-hearted" or "don't have feelings." 9/10 times this isn't the case. Some people just need a little extra TLC to get to the good that's underneath.
