1. Your Job
If you engage in an unethical profession like dealing drugs then that actually does speak volumes into who you are as a person. For the bulk of people, your career does not say anything about who you are. There are plenty of honest car salesman and lawyers just as there are corrupt police officers and doctors.
2. The amount of money you have in the bank
Currency has become a God; not because we believe it to be divine but because it has nearly the same importance in our society's eyes. Money is intrinsically worthless. The only value it has is in its ability to provide opportunity. Past a certain point, an extreme love of money shows a fundamental flaw in that person's philosophy.
3. The things you own
The car you drive says nothing about you. If your television is your closest friend then you are doing something wrong. Materialism is just modern masturbation, a symbol of class or royalty. The only value your objects have are their practical purposes or aesthetic appearance. Any other deeper love is probably the result of corporate brainwashing by advertisements.
4. Your athletic ability
Good athlete does not equate out to good person. Nobody cares how good of a football player Dwight Eisenhower was. Sports are just games although our society turns them into a religion where the coaches are the priest, the stadiums are the temples, and the athletes are the prophets. It provides a release from an otherwise bleak reality.
5. Your test scores
Your grades do not define your intelligence and your intelligence does not define your philosophy on life. Test scores are similar to athletic achievements in the sense that we live in a competitive and materialistic world where we need to quantify everything and then compare to others in order to judge self worth.
6. Your political alignment
Most of the time I feel like I would not have to say this but since it is an election year, I thought it necessary. You are not Hillary Clinton. You are not Donald Trump. Republicans can do good things just as Democrats can. Democrats are not evil and neither are Republicans.
7. The opinions of those who barely know you
Once someone has walked a mile in your shoes then their thoughts can be taken into account. Ultimately though, their opinions are just that and should be taken as facts. That does not mean completely disregard what others have to say, just take it for what it is worth.
8. Your appearance
In an ideal world, justice is blind. As human beings we create biases within a few seconds of seeing someone. We have to make a conscious effort to reverse this because just looking at someone says nothing about them except that they like Levi's jeans.
9. You khakis
I cannot tell you how to define yourself. There is not a one-size-fits-all right answer. There are, however, many wrong answers that show a poor outlook on life.