Being single in college has taught me a lot about myself. I respect other people’s relationships but I also feel very free and content with my life. Being alone isn’t so scary; fear of being with the wrong person is. There have been many cases where of course I wanted a boyfriend: when it’s couples night and all of my friends get together, whenever I want to cook for someone, or have a story to share. It’s important that we stand alone as individuals at some time in our early adulthood life so that we can appreciate life around us, people in our life, and the opportunities that it presents. Can you do all of these things while in a relationship? Well of course you can but your perspective changes when you’re alone. Being single has brought me to new places and new friends that I probably wouldn’t have created if I were tied down to somebody. Being in a relationship at 20 is a big responsibility when I already have enough on my own. Living away at school, and taking care of myself mentally and physically is strenuous. I don’t have the time and effort to put forth into another person but realistically, I’m not supposed to.

As young adults, we’re faced with the reality of the world and wondering what our life will be like in the future. We’re stressed out over making choices regarding our careers. A lot of the time, people find comfort in significant others. In the least negative way as possible, relationships result in 1 of the 2: marriage or separation. For me, it’s just not in the books right now. It took me a while to be happy alone and realize that I hate answering to people, especially a boyfriend. If I want to go to get food at 2am, I don’t need a boy chirping in my ear asking where I was going so late, if I’m texting someone, I don’t need a boy asking who I’m communicating with. I don’t have to share anything with anyone, it’s my time to be selfish for I’m only 20. Down the road, I will probably be married with a husband and kids and my life will revolve around them. For now, my life should revolve around myself and doing what makes me happy like spur of the moment road trips or going on a shopping spree. Personally, not being in a relationship has helped me focus on school and achieving my goals. It’s hard to find a common ground and manage your time socially and academically when romantically involved.

Being single at 20 years old has helped me explore myself and what I like and dislike in many aspects of life. I’m picky about who I’m socially involved with because that’s my own choice and I’m allowed to feel that way. Being single gives you the freedom to explore the types of people that you want to associate yourself with. You don't have ties to anybody so you don't feel inclined to hang around people you don't want to. There's no harm in going on a few dates with people here and there either; this makes you more diverse and experienced.

Being alone is about loving yourself first so that you can love someone else in return.