I'm writing this for the person who's sitting there heartbroken right now thinking about their loss. The person that has convinced themselves that the person who broke their heart was the ideal person for them, and no one can ever give them the things that significant person gave them. No one will ever be able to give them the same unconditional love, or give them the same feelings, or give them the comfort that person did. No one can share the same memories they had. The thing is sooner or later, with time, they'll become a memory, and eventually you'll move on. It's all part of a cycle, you see, we live in this beautiful Earth crowded with 7 billion people and counting. There's so many people to choose from, it's like we're constantly walking through this buffet of people and we have the opportunity to try out each one, only if we want and we're open to the idea of it.
Open to the idea of moving on that is.
It's hard starting over with a new person. It's hard getting to know a person and putting in effort in finding out how they work and why they are the way they are. And if you were in an abusive relationship, it's hard trying to trust the new person, for fear that they're all the same in the end. For fear that you'll end up hurting the same way you had before, and for fear of feeling stupid for committing the same mistakes. It's like you're exposing yourself and you're trying to find a benefit from it, but you're fearing the repercussions of your actions, especially if they're negative.
It's just difficult, but with the right amount of effort and the right timing. It's worth it.
You just have to be patient.
However, we also shouldn't get comfortable with the idea that we need to rely on another person to function and live. The only person that's really needed is yourself. Respect yourself, love yourself, spend time alone with yourself. You should be able to find happiness within you. Not another human being. Of course company is always nice, but your own company is better.
You should learn to worship yourself before you can worship another human being that you're going to unveil your flaws to. You need to learn to love and accept yourself before you can love and accept someone else.
Overall you need to learn.
It takes time.
But it's worth it.
You're worth it.
Know your value, and know that someone will recognize it one day too.