I am fairly independent, and I am fairly good at taking care of myself and not needing others help. However, there are times where I need someone to grab something off of the top shelf for me. Being independent can sometimes be contented to stubbornness. Although, I am sometimes hard headed, me being independent has nothing to do with me being a brat and thinking I can do everything on my own. I am aware there are times I am going to need help, and if I do need help I will ask. It will just take me longer to ask.
I remember once in high school a boy tried to hold the door for me, and I took it from him because well it was cold outside and I felt bad he was holding it for me. But also because if someone does something for me, I feel the need to return the favor. I now let boys hold the door for me because I realize it's them doing something nice. (Boys, if you want to be a gentleman ALWAYS hold the door for a lady). I have dated three boys, all of which have pointed out the fact that I am very independent and that I hardly asked for their help.
If you are dating a girl who is independent or good friends with one, know these few things. Let her figure out that she needs help. Don't keep asking her; it will only trigger her to try harder. It's not because she doesn't think you can do it, it's because she feels so strongly that she can. And if she does do it, tell her good job. I know you might think this is a brat thing to do, but honestly it's just us. We do not mean to disrespect you, it's just us wanting to prove to you that we are able to handle things on our own. We also always offer for things like paying for ourselves. (Boys, NEVER let a girl pay for herself even if she offers 13 times. Say no and take her money until you pay.) Once again it's not you, it's us. If we are able to pay for ourselve we will always offer to pay.
I know you might be reading this and be thinking, "Why are these girls like this!!" Honestly, I have no idea why we are. I wish I had some wonderful really thought out answer but I don't. All I know is that you just need to be patient with us and understand that we just like doing things for ourselves. We do appreciate the things that our done for us, so don't think we don't care. Because most likely we care way more than you think.
Maybe this helped or maybe it did. Who knows, but if it did I'm glad you sat and read through all these words.
