Whenever the topic of divorce comes up in conversation I am immediately combated with sympathy and apologies about my parents' split. Usually, I have to follow their concern with a reassurance that it is okay. Not all divorces end in heartache and here is why.
Imagine being in a relationship with someone, but every day you belligerently argue. You have been with them for years and the fights you have, have made you become toxic. Now picture bringing children into the mix. The financial stresses and responsibilities, on top of the lack of intimacy, disrespect, and dysfunction become a recipe for disaster. You fall out of love, and cannot properly raise your children in this environment without it affecting them negatively.
You try getting help, talking to a therapist, seeking insight through religion, and doing activities with your family but it just pushes everyone further away from each other. The best solution at this point is a divorce.
People always focus on the problems the child will face ahead in life due to divorce, but neglect the issues they face now, and possible damage they may suffer in the future. Some people think staying together for financial reasons is justifiable, but in reality it is dangerous. Would you rather have your child in a home that knows and displays love, rather than hatred? Would you want your child in a household that is familiar with abuse, whether it is mental, emotional, or physical and think that it is normal behavior? Lastly, would you want your child around constant arguing and violence? I know I wouldn't because I grew up around it almost all my life and it can give a child the wrong interpretation of what love is.
I will never resent my parents for the decision they made because they saved our family. Coming from a broken home is not always a bad thing. It does not mean that they failed me as parents, but they stepped up and made a responsible decision for everyone. I would much rather see my parents happy being apart, rather than constantly hurting each other being together. Although at times it has not been easy, I will always thank them for making the best decision possible for our family.
