I feel like I'm a part of a dying breed. Today, it doesn't seem like there are as many hopeless romantics in the world or people who believe in love and romance at all. There's so much popularity surrounding hookups and apps like Tinder that seem to mainly consist of people looking for a quick hookup. While there are people who do find long-lasting relationships on Tinder and other apps, it seems like a small percentage compared to the people who find hookups or short flings.
While it's not bad to be into hookups or shorter relationships, it seems like the amount of teenagers and college students looking for long-term relationships has decreased. Maybe I'm thinking there's just a decrease in the likelihood of finding a serious relationship while in college. I've only been through one full year of college, and I know there's plenty of opportunities ahead, but with my own personal experience of relationships and observing relationship trends at school, I've grown a little more wary of finding a serious relationship anytime soon.
I am a sucker for romance movies and books and have watched and read about endless love stories unfolding on the screen or in the pages of a book.
After witnessing so many love stories, I've started to imagine ways I could meet the love of my life. Maybe I'm studying abroad and I meet someone from the country I'm visiting and fall in love with them. Or maybe I'm on a vacation in a different state or country and I find a new relationship. Or what if I meet someone through a career I end up pursuing, or fall in love with a mysterious student at school?
The possibilities are infinite, but I worry I may be too imaginative for my own good.
While I love to fantasize about what it could be like meeting someone and fall in love with them, I also think to myself that the majority of the relationships I've watched on a television show or movie or read in a book are not real. I also often hear statements in these stories along the lines of "It's not every day you find a love like this" or "Not everyone finds a love like we have." Although these lines may sound cheesy, it makes me think twice about romance in my own life.
What if true love and finding your soulmate doesn't exist, and it's just things people think up for entertainment? Or what if it's so rare that I'll never find a love like that? Or maybe I've just set my standards too high after reading so many romance books.
After going back and forth with thoughts like these, I know I have to stay true to myself and believe that there's someone out there for everyone. Maybe for me, it might not happen while in college, and that's OK. It's different for everyone, and maybe I'm just meant to work on myself and grow as a person during college and I'll meet someone later, or maybe I will fall in love while at school.
Whatever happens, I believe I'll fall in love someday.
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