Nothing gets my blood boiling and my head steaming more than someone telling me, Maybe you should lower your standards.
But why?
Why should I, or anyone, have to lower our standards? Our expectations?
As a young adult I see nothing wrong with setting the bar high. Some may call it stuck up or unrealistic because nobody is perfect and nobody would be able to meet all the expectations that I have. When I talk about standards, I'm not referring to looks. I'm referring to respect, to compassion, and to having a drive for success in life.
The world is not perfect, we all know that. But why should I have to lower my standards? Instead, others should rise up to meet them.
Now, this may seem over-the-top but I believe that if someone wants to be in your life, either as a significant other or as a friend, that they should be willing to hit those expectations. I simply want to be successful in my life, to be comfortable with who I am, and to give and receive love. I also want all of that for the people in my life.
My standards are high because I refuse to settle for less then I deserve. I refuse to settle for a career that only pays the bills if its not making me happy. I refuse to be surrounded by people who are negative in regards to their life goals and to themselves.
My standards are high because I want the very best for me, because I love me.
If you're like me, worried that your high expectations will push people away or that you will end up having to settle, just keep your head high. Do not lower the bar for anyone because ultimately YOURhappiness is on the line.
You have to live your life, and do you really want to live out the rest of your life shorted on everything you wanted?
Maybe I should lower my standards - Or you SHOULD raise yours!