You have such a beautiful heart. A kind heart, a giving heart. You always see the best in others regardless of all the times they have failed you before. You are the girl who see’s every ounce of potential in someone and regardless of how many times they have hurt you before you continue to hope, you continue to pray and you believe that you can fix the problems that lie within the hand of the one you are holding.

You have exhausted every effort, held on to every promise and this time you really thought that things would change. If he really loves you, things will change. If he says he wants this so bad, things will change. This time he was going to care, this time he was going to be your knight in shining armor. Turns out that this time is just like all of the other times and here you are, disappointed and broken.

I know that everyone tells you to leave and that everyone tells you to walk away and yet something in your heart keeps you coming back to rebuild what was broken, every single time.

Stop.

I know it is easier said than done but hear me out. He is not a fixer-upper. He is not a house that you can walk in and flip like they do on HG-TV. I mean I guess he could be. But that would require years of your time, hundreds of tears and most likely a lot of heartache when things do not end up how you planned. The fact of the matter is that you cannot fix someone who is okay with being broken. You cannot help someone who refuses to reach out and grab your helping hand.

I always hear the argument that people change and yes I know that they do, but stop making excuses for a crappy person who chooses to continuously be a crappy person. In my experience people have the ability to change when they want to, on their terms. But it is only then when that change will take place. You can’t fix stupid. You also can’t fix partiers, commitment issues, insensitivity, cheaters or any other problems you can think of.

Never let someone have power over you. You are in charge of how you feel. So please stop letting someone steal your joy. Stop letting someone steal your vibrant, positive outlook on life. We are young and have all the time in the world to come across someone who actually meets our standards. So please, girls who think he is a fixer-upper, I can promise that he is not. One day you are going to meet someone who doesn’t have any problems for you to fix. Someone who you don’t have to compare to a condemned house because of all their shattered windows, but instead someone who has their own house and can invite you in because they are happy with themselves and want to brighten the place up a bit.