We’ve all been there. We all have that one friend who’s constantly and never endlessly complaining about how they will never find their true soul mate. Oh and let’s not forget, how it just so happens that they will “die forever alone with 10 cats.”
Perhaps this is you in a nutshell. Or you've been this person at one point.
We’ve all gone through rotten breakups. We’ve all experienced feelings of lonesome and isolation. We’ve all gone through times where we’ve cried in bed for a week or perhaps a month because life appears to feel like a storm. But luckily, I’m here to tell you 5 small ways that you can work towards changing this cynical mindset into a more positive one.
Prince(ss) charming will come your way when you least expect it. Say goodbye to your cat-constructed-future.
1. Take time to focus on you.
Take this time you have to focus on your craft. What are your goals? What is your purpose for existing on this universe? There’s more to life than just blowing up your friends’ newsfeeds with cute pictures of you and your significant other! When you become busy focusing on yourself, you begin to notice the importance of loving yourself.
No, I’m not saying to become an egotistical jerk. I’m saying, take the time you have now to do the things on your to-do list. Take the time you have now to do things that are outside of your comfort zone. Do something that makes you extraordinarily happy! Recognize your strengths. Recognize all the perks that make you, YOU. Recognize all of the beautiful things that perhaps the person you were dating before, didn’t value. Listen to Jack!
2. Be Patient.
In any case, especially with something as great as love, it’s extremely hard to execute this so-called noun that goes by the name of "patience." *Insert eye roll here*
A very wise Greek philosopher by the name of Aristotle once said, “patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” I know patience can be a cold winter to bear, but it surely is a virtue.
Be patient and you will see how things work out in the end.
3. Be mindful of your thoughts and attitude.
Having this doom and gloom mindset of dying alone makes you sound whiny. Believe it or not, it doesn’t really attract people any more than you would want. If you’ve heard the phrase, “we’re shaped by our thoughts,” then you get what I’m talking about. Don’t allow bitterness or jealousy to take over you. It’s easy to walk with a cold heart today, tomorrow, next month, so on.
By the way, this goes for anyone and everyone who mentions the same thing, every year, on the 14th of February. Just because you don’t have someone to cuddle with or an actual human being to hold hands with, it does not mean that the world is ending.
4. Think of yourself as Beyoncé.
It works. Think of yourself as fierce and undeniable. Keep a great level of self-confidence but remember to always remain humble. Trust me.
5. Be comfortable with loneliness.
Loneliness can be your worst enemy, if you allow it to be. Loneliness is okay. It’s perfectly okay to desire the idea of being alone and away from the world when you’ve fallen into the traps of your darkest moments. However, it’s not okay to be in love with loneliness. Just because you believe the world is cruel and mean, does not mean that it is okay to hide away in a nutshell forever.
Overall, try to make the best out of every single day you are given to live on this earth. Be happy. Spread happiness. We need more of that in our world today. Love others but don’t forget to love yourself, too.
