We've all heard the fact that our brains don't stop developing until we're 25. So if we know this, why do we think we've developed enough at 18Â to be in a committed relationship? The truth is we haven't developed enough for a committed relationship.
Here are some reasons why being in a committed relationship is a bad idea.
1. You're not "meant to be."
Speaking from personal experience, it's easy to meet someone who has similar interests as you and assume this means it's destined. But, because our interests are still developing, a lot of the time we end up relying too much on a partner to fill in the missing pieces.
2. You're trying to figure yourself out.
With college being right at the peak, between our adolescence and adulthood, it's meant to be our chance to work on ourselves. So even though we're legally considered adults, we're still working on "it" and to find out what "it" is, is to be alone.
3. You need some time alone.
I'm not against dating in college, just the concept that it's possible to become who you are as an individual in college if you never let yourself be alone. The beauty of being alone is that it doesn't have to be permanent, but it gives you time to find out what you really want.
My advice to anyone in college, upperclassmen or underclassmen, is to try out being alone. Even if you meet someone you think is "the one," give it time, there's no need to rush into commitment so early on in life.
