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Hello, Sweetie

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Hello, Sweetie

"Hello, sweetie." "Hello, darling." "Hello, hon." "Hello, cutie." "Hello, [insert condescending pet name here]."

I don't care if you are younger than me or older than me (although the middle-aged men old enough to be my father are especially guilty of doing this and especially creepy when they do it). I don't care how you were "brought up," whether you think you are being "familiar," or whether this is just "how you are." Do not call me by a pet name unless a) you know me, b) you share my last name or c) I am in a relationship with you. And if you knew me or were in a relationship with me, you'd know that I hate pet names so you would not be doing it in the first place.

These "hello, sweeties" are not cute. They are derogatory.

Let's break this down. If a girl walked up to a man and started calling him "sweetie" or "honey," she would be considered one of two things: motherly or sexual. How are guys who walk up to anonymous girls and call them "sweetie" or "darlin''" perceived?

It depends on who you're asking.

If you were asking a girl, nine times out of 10 she would say flat out that it is wicked creepy. She hates it. It makes her feel uncomfortable, but she feels that she can't say anything about it in protest because she will get a negative response.

But if you were asking a guy? He would say he's just "being a guy" or the worst: "He doesn't know why, he just says it." Let me put this in perspective: Even when females are wearing name tags, guys still feel the need to call them by pet names.

It is not because of how they were raised. It is the societal climate in which they were raised. They have been brainwashed to feel entitled to all the pretty girls and pretty faces that they see. The name tag might as well be invisible because an anonymous girl is easier to demean than a girl with a name.

So stop. Just stop. Stop with the "sweeties," the "honeys," and stop with the "sweethearts," because it just makes us hate you a little bit more.

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