There isn’t a doubt in my mind that you are going to read this. The way social media works nowadays, it is hard to keep anything a secret, right? Well, here it goes.

I am obviously an ex-girlfriend myself. I get it. I know that feeling when you refresh your Instagram feed and all those rumors you heard are really the truth. She has a picture of them together and a cute caption, and you get that pit in your stomach that goes to your throat.

You immediately despise her. And in your case, you despise me. I read the tweets and heard about what you thought of me, and I know it was out of spite. Again, I get it. You played a major role in his life, and I never in a million years could replace you or the time you spent with him. I would never want to. But even if you feel like it all was wasted time, it wasn’t.

I have been in your position. You think you are with the guy that you want to be with for a really long time, and then everything is just over in the blink of an eye. You question what you could have done differently or when it went all wrong. But what I have learned, and I am sure you have too, is that it’s not worth thinking about anymore. Your time together and those memories are something no one can ever replace.

You don’t ever have to like me. I don’t ever have to like you. My words aren’t asking for anything but respect. I respect you, and I have never jeopardized your time with him. I know in my heart I am not the reason your relationship failed. I am not that type of person and deep down in your heart, I think you know why you both went your separate ways.

Just know I care so much about him. No, I do not have to justify myself to you or anyone else, but I am the type of person who will flat out just tell you about something.

Again, as an ex-girlfriend, I get it. The feelings, the pit in your stomach and the envy you have expressed. It just shows you care.

But I am here to tell you that I care. I try every day to show him how lucky I am to have him because I know life can just happen. Forever? Come on, we are young and have our whole lives to settle down. Obviously, I cannot guarantee anything at this point, but I can promise that I wouldn’t be with him if he didn’t make me the happiest I have ever been.

As someone who has been in your position before, I would have loved to hear this.

I wish you nothing but the best and a lifetime full of happiness.

Sincerely,

The girl who finally spoke up