Dear future husband, to be completely and utterly honest, I believed that by this time I would have already found you. My plans included meeting "my soul mate" around this time. My plans included being friends for a few years before dating for two years and then getting engaged, later to be married by age 27. Is it still possible? Yeah, no doubt. But it's not really a plan i'm trying to execute these days. Plus I still have 5 years until I reach 27, and a lot can happen in five years. These days I'm just trying to balance all of my commitments and be the best me I can possibly be.These days, the thing i'm most attached to is my planner. Honestly, I just want to make grades and have fun while doing it. I want to go a few days without my keurig and get 8 hours of sleep in a night. I want to be able to serve greatly on my campus, in my church, in my community. I want to volunteer in as many places as I can. I want to do really cool stuff not just to add to my resume, but because my heart is inclined to it. To be honest, i'm not too worried about finding you right now. Sometimes when I see everyone's engagement pictures I get carried away and i'm like when's my turn? But that moment goes away pretty quickly- trust me. Right now i'm trying to figure out why someone who says they love you and miss you can just walk away the next day and post pictures with a new "love" of his on social media, and then take it down because I gave it a like. Right now i'm trying to figure out how to not look stupid in front of my own crush. Right now i'm trying to do so many other things as an "independent young lady", which is not to say I don't want to find you. What i'm trying to say is that i'm not worried about finding you, and i'm in no rush to find you as well. According to my roommate, i'm Oprah in the making. I can cook and clean, and I love to serve. I'm sweet, I adore children, i'm really easy going. I love helping others. I can dress up on a night out, but feel just as beautiful in a giant t-shirt and basketball shorts at home on a Saturday night. I have just as much fun in a sporting event, as in my church life group. I'm a pretty well-rounded individual. There's always that "BUT" though. I need you to know and accept the fact i'm a horrible flirt- that's right, I will therefore seduce you with my awkwardness. I need you to also know and accept the fact that I'm not clingy. I'm just not- in fact, I hate checking in. I don't mind telling you where i'm going to and where i'm coming from, from time to time, but don't expect me to give you a time log of my day. I'm not into the whole PDA (public display of affection) thing. I don't have to hold your hand when we're walking together. I don't need goodbye kisses when we go different ways. I'm naturally a hugger, but I don't need to hug you for five whole minutes to show you affection. Don't get mad if I call you bro over babe. Don't take it personally if i call you by your first name. Don't be bothered by the fact that i like to celebrate with high fives. Don't be upset at the fact that I don't feel the need to text every single day. Some days I will leave my phone on do not disturb. Some days I hold off from texting back for a while, until I finish my daily tasks. Do i want to be with you? Yes.I promise you that I will enjoy of your company, but i don't feel the need to be glued to your hip. I want you to be able to hang out with your friends, and I want to be able to hang out with my friends, be our own individual selves, and be one at the same time, or at different times. I don't want to "get lost in another person" and not be able to be myself. We can hang out with each other on a Friday morning and with our own friends Saturday night, or all together if everyone is cool with that. We can have nights to ourselves from time to time. We can have deep and meaningful conversations, or pointless conversations, watching TV on the couch. We can have fun without being so serious all the time. Let's not over use the phrases "i love you" and "i miss you". Let's just take it slow when we need to. Let's wait to have children, wait to make serious commitments and purchases. Let's love each other when we're being stubborn. Put up with each others faults- please put up with my indecisiveness. Don't hate me when I laugh at you rather than with you. Put up with me when I feel the need to blast the radio up for ONE song. Take a deep breath when you know i'm about to talk about Taylor Swift. Let me ask you quirky questions. Let me call you handsome. Accept my rare smothering moments. Let's accept each other no matter what. Let's stray away from "movie relationships". Let's be friends before anthing else. Be each others partner in crime. Accept the fact that i talk WAY TOO MUCH! Dear future husband, I can't wait to do life with you, whenever the time comes!
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1. The Freshmen 15? It's real.
WARNING: The buffet style campus dining spots are a TRAP. If you're eating and out drinking on the weekends, it is EXTREMELY LIKELY that you're going to gain a little bit of weight. Gaining weight isn't really a bad thing, but staying healthy is definitely important. Take a walk or a run to even out that junk food intake, but feel free to sneak that late night five-cheese panini at 1AM.
2. Make friends with some of your floormates.
Your first year of college is arguably the most memorable time of your college life. You live with your floormates for two semesters, and you see them in the hall all the time. Make it a point to say "what's up", it'll definitely make your year more fun.
3. College is hard. Don't sell yourself short.
Higher education. It's not high school, your professors are a little less prominent than your HS teachers. This being said, you are responsible for your own eucation. It's a little hard having all this freedom and responsibility for (probably) the first time in your life, but it's important to realize that it's a little harder because you're sort of on your own.
4. You don't HAVE to have sex to "get it over with".
This is IMPORTANT. Deciding to have sex when you get to college? Cool. Deciding you want to wait? Awesome. Having sex because you just want to get it over with? Hm, think about that. Your decision is your decision, but if you're iffy about entering the "college hook-up culture", PLEASE really think about how important it is for you to have sex.
5. Be careful who you hook up with and who you open up to.
As I said earlier: beware of the infamous "college hook-up culture". IMO, it's a chance for college guys or gals to lead the other on (the majority of the time). It's not possible to control your feelings, but it's possible to cut a hook-up off/talk about how you feel. Better for you in the long run, trust me.
6. Work around scheduling a class before 12PM.
You might have the idea that, "Oh, I got up at 8AM in high school. I can do it again." No. No, you can't. I have very little explanation for this. You'll enjoy the extra sleep. If you don't believe me, schedule a morning class, and see how you feel.
7. Dress how you want to dress.
You wanna dress up? Slap on some make up, put on some heels, and head to your lecture. You were up late last night? Roll out of bed in what you fell asleep in last night. The good thing about college? You realize that no one is really focused on you, so it's a good time to just "do you" and rock it.
8. The drinking every chance you get? Not healthy. Stop that.
9. When you DO go out, be safe.
Check your drink, make sure you're pacing yourself, don't wander home by yourself, etc. The essentials.
10. Spend your money frugally.
Living the ramen/ easy-mac life is a real thing. There's a reason why it's a college student's go-to: it's easy to make, and it's cheap as heck. It's important to practice money saving tips- even though it seems almost impossible.
11. Those events your RA hosts? Go to them. Some of them are awesome, some offer free food.
As a poor college student, the word free resonates in all of our ears. RA events are not only a gateway to free food, but are also a way to meet more people on your floor/ in your building.
12. It's not all about school- enjoy yourself.
College is a new time in your life where you're working towards your future, but it's also a time where you meet people and have experiences like no other. Let yourself breathe sometimes, and just enjoy this experience.
What about combined income from two minimum-wage workers? Wouldn't that put them above the poverty line? In a nuclear family with two working parents and two children, their combined yearly wage would be about $30,160. That's only $7,846 above the poverty line. Now, let's take into account rent, food, gas, utilities, car insurance, health insurance, school supplies, clothes, and tuition. Try and see how $30,160 would cover all those expenses in a year – it doesn't. The minimum wage is not a living wage.
The minimum wage is not a living wage.
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Here are some myths that I would like to present and debunk:
Raising the minimum wage will kill jobs. This is false. In a March 2011 report, the Center for Economic and Policy Research concluded that raising the minimum wage would not only help workers but actually have the possibility of increasing job openings. Better pay leads people to spend more money, and the cycle repeats.
"Nobody living in one of the most influential nations in the world should be worried about making ends meet."
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On June 2, 2014 , Seattle changed the city's minimum wage to $15 dollars. Following that procedure, unemployment decreased 17.46 percent – falling from a previous 6.3 percent to 5.2 percent.
Raising the minimum wage will hurt small business. Not only has a higher minimum wage worked in cities across the United States, but a 2006 study by the Center for American Progress and Policy Matters compared small business performances and found that the small businesses who paid the higher wages were more profitable.
Mostly teenagers work minimum-wage jobs. Again, this is false. Half of minimum-wage workers are 25 years old or older. Most minimum-wage workers support their family on this income – and 28 percent of these individuals have children.
Raising the minimum wadge
The minimum wage is not sufficient to uphold and support an individual, especially individuals with families. I've often heard: "It isn't fair that someone working in a fast food restaurant will get paid the same as a college professional!" If we raise the minimum wage to, let’s say, $11 an hour, it would still be a lower amount than that of a college professional. Even so, someone not having a college degree doesn't make their worth any less valuable. Nobody deserves to live in poverty. Nobody living in one of the most influential nations in the world should be worried about making ends meet. We are a nation of equality and opportunity – it's time to let some of that opportunity flow.
What is the current minimum wage at the federal level?
Federal minimum wage is currently $7.25 per hour. Many states also have minimum wage laws, and the employee is entitled to the higher of the two minimum wages. (U.S. Dept. of Labor)
What are the benefits of raising the minimum wage?
A higher minimum wage means less workers living below the poverty line, more workers being able to make ends meet and potentially spend beyond that, and workers would be more productive upon the increase.
What are the states that have set a $15/hour minimum wage?
California is at $15.50 per hour, Washington is at $15.74, and Massachusetts is at $15. These are the only states to have a $15 minimum wage as of Jan. 1, 2023. (The Economic Policy Institute Tracker)
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