It's inevitable; in life we will feel heartache, pain, suffering. It builds character, it teaches us the true strength we hold. We've all been through our fair share of heartache. It doesn't have to be a break up to cause pain, or even have to be romantic in anyway.

No. 3

I'm sure it's come to everyones attention at some point in their life that anytime we love we put on rose colored glasses. Everything is beautiful, it's elegant and sensual. Until those glasses break and we see the true colors of the world, or the person, or maybe even ourselves. I know many times after break ups I've discovered a lot about myself. It's cliche to say we all change when we get into and get out of relationships, but it's true. There's not a moment in your life you aren't changing, especially in altering moments like that. I don't mean change like "wow I came out of that a different person!!" Sometimes that does happen, but more often than not, it's subtly. We learn to say no, we learn to put our happiness first, we learn what love actually is. Every relationship you have pushes you further towards what you define happiness, and love as. Think about it, one day you're "in love," everything is perfect and that's true in the time being. This person knows you, and loves you, but it doesn't last, and that's when you find out what you've been missing. It's hard to spot your weakness when you're so caught up on just keeping yourself afloat, so the other person doesn't drown. In that moment, you look back and see that how you loved them, isn't how you wanted to love someone. That's the change. That's your freedom.

I'm not saying love is bad, I'm just saying that it takes a while for you to get to the point where your love is what it's truly meant to be. I've been through my fair share of heartbreaks, and I can't lie and say I've never broken someone's heart, and every time it makes me sick to my stomach. Hurting someone is not something I inherently want to do, and I have a strong belief that no one else does either. But over the let's assume 4 years I've been in and out (more serious) relationships, I finally realize I can't feel bad about doing what's best for me. Even if it means my heart hurts because someone else's heart hurts. The only way I am, or anyone, is ever going to find what they're looking for is to just keep going on, even when it's a Tuesday night and you believe you're all alone, if you just keep looking, if you just keep going, you'll see those moments are there for a reason. Even in your darkest moments, remember there's always those people cheering you on silently.

Basically, never give up on love. Even when your world is no longer doused in roses. Even when everything shatters, and you realize the person you love isn't who they made themselves out to be. Even when you feel like it's the world versus you. Remember that everything is happening to shape you, to show you where you're supposed to be, to bring you to freedom.