I first want to explain what the word “heaux” means for those who have never seen nor heard of it. “Heaux” has the exact same pronunciation and meaning as the often used "ho."
Second, I want to say that no one should be called ho or any name of that sort out of malice or without that person being called ho’s prior consent. This goes for all degrading terminology including but not limited to ho, whore, bitch, slut, nigga, etc.
No matter which way it’s said, whether or not you mean to be malicious, it is wrong to call someone a derogatory name.
Last, someone’s sexual history is not open to your critique. Unless you are currently sexually active with that person, their sexcapades are none of your business in the slightest.
But carrying on, here are a few heaux tips for sexually free womyn.
1. Be Clean.
This is numero uno of being a responsible and sanitary human being. If you want to engage in sexual activity with someone you need to be clean (unless you’re into some nastiness).
You’ve probably already heard this many times by now but I’ll repeat it- WASH YOUR ENTIRE BODY. This includes your back, feet, ears, belly button, etc. Don’t forget to clean your cheeks and tongue when brushing your teeth.
The goal is not only to have a pleasant scent but to be thorough. Which means using a few Summer’s Eve wipes and a few spritz of Japanese Cherry Blossom just aren’t going to cut it.
You should also make sure to visit the OBGYN, or clinic every three months for a single partner or 2 weeks to a month after a new partner. Ignorance is not an excuse to spread disease.
2. Be Picky
You have the right to be as picky as you want with your sexual partners. Whatever your gender or sexual orientation, whoever you let enter you should be subject to strict rules and regulations.
No standard is too high or low- just do what you feel fits you best.
If you don’t have sex with English majors then don’t! YOU choose who YOU want to be with and you should choose those people carefully. You never know what the future may hold but you should make decisions with the future in mind.
3. Only Yes Means Yes
Although it sounds like a simple concept, both men and women do not understand that yes is the ONLY thing that means yes.
Nothing else means yes, except for your explicit and unforced agreement.
Side note: Men can be and are also assaulted and harassed. Unless he says yes don’t touch or speak. Don’t be a rapist.
4. Do Only What You’re Comfortable With
I know you’ve probably been told all your life to go out of your comfort zone and experience new things but when it comes to sex you should stick with what you know. Now this isn’t to say you shouldn’t eat someone’s ass while doing a handstand, it just means you should set hard and soft limits and boundaries.
Hard limits and boundaries are things you will not do. No amount of coercing will get you to do it no matter what. I, personally, do not and will not eat ass- it’s just not for me. That’s one of my many hard limits.
Soft limits and boundaries are things you aren’t into but you might be willing to experiment with. Getting my booty hole licked and my butt cheek nibbled on was a soft limit of mine. I experimented and now I swear by it.
Major Key Alert: Get you someone that’ll go down under on Australia and New Zealand if you know what I mean.
5. Embrace, Accept, and Love Yourself
At the end of the day, it should all come down to how you feel about yourself. If you feel like having sex is too much for you then don’t do it. If you feel like polyandry is the way to go then you and your 8 husbands can rock on.
You’ll always have to face yourself so just make sure that you don’t do anything that would make you feel negatively towards yourself.
It’s all about embracing who you are, accepting what you do, loving every single piece of you.
So these are five heaux tips for sexually free womyn. Hopefully it helped in some form or another.
