This is an article to you, my friends who have had a major loss.Or maybe it's more to those who say they know exactlywhat you're going through, when in all reality they don't. Sure, they may have a good idea of what you're going through, if they've been through a major loss. But no one knows exactlywhat you've been through, except for you. To those who say they do, I lost my mom when I was 18. When I found out she had passed, I made a joke. Is that what you would've done? I'm guessing a majority of you said no, and that's OK! We all respond to grief differently, and that's OK. But to you who have yet to go through some loss as major as someone you're super close with, let me tell you three questions/statements to avoid.

1. "Dude, when are you gonna get over this?"

Don't ever ask this. This is not something you "get over." A bridge is something you get over, but not this. They've lost a loved one, someone so close, and now, they're just gone. It's not like they went on vacation. They're physically never coming back. So, how do you "get over" that? Because if you find a way, let me know.

2. "Could you stop talking about this? It's bringing me down."

Yes, believe it or not, this has happened on more then one occasion. I'm sorry that my parent's death inconveniences you, how could I be so selfish? Thinking I needed a friend to help me through this. Pfft, what was I thinking? We come to you for a reason, we're hoping you can cheer us up, even by just comforting us.

3. "Just let things go back to normal!"

If you take anything away from this article, please take away this point. Don't say this one ever. Please, for the love of John Jacobjingleheimerschmid, not this. While you may want us to go back to the way we were before this, and again, all intentions may be well meant, but you're missing something. You keep telling us to go back to normal, the way things were before. You want us to return to "normal," like you. But there's just one small thing.

There is no normal for us anymore.