The other day I was sitting at the good ole Chick-Fil-A with a friend of mine and we were talking about how things have changed since we went off to college. Since we are both from out of state, trips home aren't a regular occurrence, and our friends and family at home are always excited to find out what is going on in our lives back at school. And while we are from very different places, we both realized one similarity we have when going home. The first question anyone we see from home asks us is "Do you have a boyfriend?"

Why don't people ask about other things like "What is your major?", "How are your classes?", "What are you involved with on campus?" or "Have you made some good friends at school?". I'm thankful that I have people in my life that are interested enough to ask me questions at all but I wish "Do you have a boyfriend?" wasn't the first one asked. Don't get me wrong, this isn't a bad question, but I have come to realize that we let this question define who we are way too much. You are so much more than who you are in a relationship with, and not having a boyfriend does not mean you are any less beautiful or smart or funny than someone else. Don't let the answer to this question define your successes in college.

Whenever I respond "Nope, I don't" to this question, it is always followed by "Well when do you think you will get a boyfriend?" I have no idea when I will get a boyfriend, and I am trusting that God has a way better plan for me than I can see right now and that being patient will be worth it. College is often the place where people find the person they want to marry, but if it isn't that for you, don't be discouraged. God's plan for each of our relationships is unique, and you cannot base your life on a social norm.