One day, an old friend of mine - who had a rather large crush on me I might add - found out that I was in a relationship. Being in a relationship to him was bad enough, but once he found out that he's black, all hell broke loose.
"How is your father even allowing you to date him? I would never allow my daughter to date a black guy. I'm not racist or anything, I have black friends - but my daughter would get her a** whooped if she brought around a black guy. When you want someone to treat you right, you can drop that n****r and come to me."
Let's all say it together. 1.. 2.. 3..
WHAT. THE. FLYING. F**K.
Let me just say something. I've dated a few boys. All my other boyfriends besides Andrew were white. And those boys cheated, used, disappeared and hurt the sh*t out of me. Meanwhile, my black boyfriend has remained a best friend and has stuck by my side through everything. He has never deceived me or made me think he was looking for something different. He has never used me. He has never made me do something I wasn't comfortable with. He has never left without a word. Are you catching my drift here? My black boyfriend treats me better than the white ones ever did.
(Side note - saying you would kick your daughter's a** if she dated a black guy then claiming you're not racist doesn't really help with your raging racism.)
For someone who's extremely open-minded and accepting like I am, it baffles me to see how somebody can be so judgmental over something as silly as a color. Then again, Donald Trump is our president, so I guess anything is possible.
I also saw a video on Facebook the other day going around. It was a couple sitting in a restaurant eating their meal and they were, you guessed it, an interracial couple.The video showed a black man going up to the boyfriend and questioning his choice in women. The man said things such as;
"You couldn't find an old black woman? Like you had to go that low to the lowest rung of humanity? You know if, they're even humans. What was it that made you that weak and made you bow down to this less than a female?"
You already know what I'm about to say on the count of three.
Once again, I really don't understand why a black man is looked down upon for choosing to date a white woman. What makes a white woman so disgusting and what makes a black man a lesser man for choosing to be with her? Because I think I'm a pretty great girlfriend to my man and I think he's the greatest man in the world to me. Weirdly enough, I'm pretty sure our skin tones have nothing to do with that.
This is a topic I could rant on and on about, but I think my point here is to stop being so ignorant about interracial relationships. Whether it's a black man and a white woman, a white man and a black woman, or even those in interracial relationships who are gay - your comments will not change our relationship or change our minds about our partner. Unlike you, we don't look at the outside and judge someone. We aren't going back in time, we're moving forward. We choose to look at the beauty a person's personality has to offer and all the other wonderful things life could bring us... together.
So please, open your mind and open your heart - because you're just making yourself look like a damn fool.
