I am an obsessive people pleaser with an immobilizing fear of people being mad at me. I go physically weak and feel sick to the depths of my stomach when someone is upset with me and I feel desperate to do whatever it takes to make them happy with me again. This is a BIG problem, because it is impossible to please everyone. We all have varying views and beliefs and can't always agree and when strong emotions get involved and people start judging others without really trying to understand and empathize with their view and experience, things get real messy. One of my "strengths" is restorative, which means that I feel I have to fix all problems that arise in a relationship and restore peace and harmony as soon as possible. This seems like a good quality, and it can be, but it has turned into a negative, harmful trait for me, because I feel it too deeply. For many years I have tried hard to never upset anyone, to never disappoint their opinion of me, to never cause a wave to ripple in the water of any of my relationships, whether I had met the person recently, or known them all my life. This worked okay, most of the time, though it was rather tiring but then several people I was close to started to disagree heavily with me on my beliefs and became seriously upset and sometimes angry with me for not agreeing with them. I was heartbroken and cried many tears but I could not give in and agree to do what they pressured me to do, because it went against who I was, it didn't feel right to me, and it went against God's plan for me. I wanted desperately to make them happy with me, but I could not, though many times I was horribly tempted to give in and try to be who they wanted me to be. This people pleasing trait has caused me extreme anxiety, grief, depression, and frustration and I am beginning to fully realize, that in order to have peace, to grow in self confidence and to stop being continually anxious, I HAVE to stop trying to please people who disagree with me, even if they are very close to my heart. I have to stop feeling like I am doing something wrong or bad or that I am bad, if I don't think, act and believe like they think I should. I have to stop letting what others believe about me stir up my world and make it muddy and confusing, because if I don't, I will never be able to have a healthy love for myself. As one of my dear friends said to me recently, "I know you, you will keep trying to make everyone happy, that's how you are. But if you keep trying to make them all happy, you will lose yourself in the process. Please don't let that happen." I felt very touched by her concern, I knew she was right and I felt a new level of conviction that this is a BIG problem and that I need to put this controlling, unhealthy habit in God's hands and surrender my desire for everyone to be happy with me and agree with me. I need to remember that we are all called to live like Jesus, and Jesus did and said things that made many people upset with Him, angry with Him, even hate Him and He was never doing anything wrong. Jesus shows us that there is so much more to life than just trying to please everyone. He shows us that it is essential that we act, believe, speak and live in a way that is true to our faith, true to ourselves and that follows God's Will, and that it is not essential to make others happy with us.
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The Kardashian/ Jenner family is praised for the enormous amount of reality television series that are produced surrounding their lives. Viewers seem to crave new television shows behind the intriguing Kardashian/ Jenner bunch, considering the Kardashian clan has been featured in approximately 12 television series. Regardless of how many haters this family may have, their shows have shown tremendous success. Their most famous series documenting the family's life since 2007, Keeping Up With The Kardashians(KUWTK), premieres on E! Network. Season 13 of KUWTK is said to premiere March 12th at 9 p.m. on E!, so stay tuned!
2. Fashion and Beauty Gurus
Nineteen-year-old Kylie Jenner is hands-down known to be one of the most successful beauty gurus. Kylie Cosmetics, launched in 2016, has shown an insane amount of success. Kylie Lip Kits are known to sell out within minutes of being launched onto her website. Fans follow Kylie's business closely, with her accustoming her new lines and colors to what the customers desire. This is one of Kylie's many smart business tactics, pleasing the customers, in turn, gains Kylie more revenue for her business. Along with beauty success, the three Kardashian sisters, Kim, Kourtney, and Khloe, have created their fashion boutique DASH. When the boutique first opened it struggled. However, the sisters rose it immensely, with the store being extremely successful to this day with three locations in West Hollywood, Miami Beach, and the SoHo District in New York City. KENDALL+KYLIE is also another successful fashion line with clothes being sold in popular stores like Pac Sun, Neiman Marcus, and Top Shop. Their lines are also shown in many fashion shows, boosting their credibility in the fashion world.
3. Apps
Kim Kardashian's game app is said to have brought in over $100 million since it's launch in 2014. The app is free to download, however, players can purchase "extras" in the game which is where most of the revenue derives from. Kim constantly keeps the game up-to-date which is an intelligent business tactic because it keeps players intrigued, and feeling as if they're living the true Kardashian life. After the extreme success of Kim's game app, each sister created their personal apps that can be downloaded in the iTunes store for a $2.99 monthly subscription fee. Each sister's app emphasizes their expertise in the fashion, beauty, travel, and fitness worlds.
4. Social Media Tactics
The Kardashian/ Jenner family has accumulated over approximately 404.7 million followers on Instagram and over approximately 154.93 million followers on Twitter. These business moguls thrive off social media techniques in building their business empire - which is smart. These sisters make thousands of dollars for one promotional tweet or Instagram post. Constantly updating their accounts keeps fans intrigued and up-to-date on their latest products/ endeavors.
5. Method Behind Parasocial Interaction
Parasocial interaction (PSI) is a communication technique where celebrities endorse themselves, and fans feel a connection of some kind to that specific celebrity. PSI is promoted in the Kardashian/ Jenner family because they endorse themselves on their social media accounts so well that fans begin to feel a connection with this family. This makes it easier for the Kardashian/ Jenners to promote their products and businesses in a not-so-pushy way.
6. Failed Endeavors
Failure is the first step to success. Although this family is praised for their unimaginable success, they have failed plenty along their way to fame. Talkshows, books and fashion lines haven't made the revenue expected and haters constantly attempt to tear down this family's fame, however, the Kardashian/ Jenner family still stands strong. In the end, they are true business moguls, entrepreneurs, and content creators who have created an insane empire.
7. Net Worth
The Kardashian/ Jenner family is stated to have a net worth of over approximately $300 million. Kim leads the family with her net worth accounting for over $100 million with the littlest sister, Kylie Jenner, creeping up the ladder. Numbers don't lie. These sisters truly have built an enormous business empire.
1. When you see each other after a hiatus it is like no time has passed.
Regardless of what you may have gone through, nothing can change the banter and personal communication you and your friends share. Nothing feels awkward or forced because you are having too much fun catching up!
2. You plan your outings around each other's schedules.
Your friend's work schedules or class schedules are memorized like the back of your hand. They are your priority, and you will do anything you can to get them to join you on adventures when it is convenient to do so.
3. You say 'I love you' on the phone.
Yes, you may say it in real life too, but saying it after a phone call means it has become a customary for you to validate your appreciate for one other. Like a significant other or family member, you feel the desire to express your love at the end of a conversation.
4. Nothing is boring when you are together.
No matter what you do together, you always have a good time. Why? Because your friends' company is all you need. With the right people, you can make any situation memorable.
5. You share weird inside jokes no one else understands.
And you would like to keep it that way. If you are anything like my friend group, we share a strange family dynamic that has lasted as a running joke forever. No matter what it is, your inside jokes and sly smirks will keep the spirits up for ages.
6. You plan to hang out for a couple hours but end up together the entire day.
So now you just expect it and prepare for a 24-hour long get-together. Naps are often a part of the agenda.
7. The hugs say a thousand words.
Perhaps you do it a little too much, but the hugs you share are always meaningful and comforting. Gotta love those group hugs especially!
8. You go on spontaneous adventures together.
It is where your favorite memories come from. Even though you might not be able to do them as much as you would like, you are always down for a trip, big or small, with the group.
9. You consider each other family.
Because you consider each other family, you treat each other like family. Constant love, constant support, and a tremendous amount of meals spent together.
10. They make you a better person.
It is not a special friend group unless you learn from one another. You had to be selective when choosing your friends and when you did, you felt like they could teach you a thing or two. Their actions influence who you are and you could not be more thankful.
11. You can't imagine life without them.
The very thought scares you and sends your heart racing. Thankfully, the ultimate friend group is right there with you so you never have to second-guess their loyalty. Instead, you can bask in the glory that is your ultimate friend group. #squadgoals.
1. No school = no stress.
There are no essays to write, no books to read, and no deadlines to meet. The only worry in the world is keeping track of putting sunblock on.
2. Country music is more fun to listen to.
All true fans will listen to country music 365 days a year, but we all know that it's so much better in the summer when you can roll down the windows.
3. Your skin looks and feels better.
Even if you don't have the type of skin that tans, there is more color there than in the winter ... maybe. Freckles, tan lines, peeling burns and clear skin make for a happier camper. You'll forget all about the ghost version of yourself that was shedding dry skin like a snake over the winter.
4. Being barefoot 24/7 is an option.
Obviously wearing no shoes in the middle of a blizzard isn't acceptable. You know what is, though? Wearing no shoes in the summer ever because why not?
5. Ice cream is an acceptable snack.
For people like me who can't resist ice cream even on a 10 degree day, summer is a giant ice cream blessing. Not only does it taste like heaven, it's actually refreshing.
6. Minimal clothing is required.
Is there anything worse than having to put on layers in the wintertime only to sweat to death the minute you come back inside? No need for more than a tank top and shorts in the summertime.
7. Going to the beach daily isn't weird.
Now that it's hot, it's beach season. If you live near the ocean there is an excuse to drive there day or night, rain or shine. Staying there all day is an option for those who don't burn, and for those who do, you can always come back at night for a bonfire.
8. Cookouts.
Even when they lead to disaster, summertime cookouts are the best. Nothing completes a cookout more than watermelon and corn on the cob.
9. Night swimming.
Oh the thrill of jumping in freezing cold water in the middle of the night. Good thing the air becomes colder than the water, making the pool like a giant bathtub.
10. Spontaneous adventures.
Summertime gives you the freedom to wake up in the morning and decide to do something totally out of the blue that you've never done before. Hiking to a waterfall, rock climbing, going to a museum, or even road tripping are all great summer options.
Even if the heat isn't really your thing, it's undeniable to admit that life really is better in the summer. There's so much more free time, opportunity, excitement and sunshine. Only four months to go!
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