I think it is safe to say that rejection and failure hits everyone at some points in their lives. Whether it's getting rejected from the person you were romantically interested in or the club that didn't think you were the right fit for them, people handle the rejection in different and unique ways. Some people use it as motivation to improve on themselves and some people take it very harshly and it actually tears down their confidence. I, unfortunately, take rejection to heart and let it eat me alive each and every second of the day.
It's not like I enjoy feeling down about myself, but my life throughout the past couple of years has been filled with so many rejections; big and small. I do get many people that tell me to "just get over it" or "move on" and although it might be easy for you to say, the answer isn't always that simple. Each hit of rejection that I take knocks me down fully and once I finally get myself up, bam; another hit. The constant beat downs are never easy to recover from, this is why rejection is one of the hardest things I personally deal with in my life.
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Rejection, in a sense, is almost telling you that you aren't good enough to be accepted. I know I will have many people disagree with me and say that their constant rejection made them stronger, which I do not doubt for one minute. I know once I finally get over this constant obsession I have with being approved in anything and everything I do, I will take each one of my rejection stories as a lesson that made me stronger. But for now, I just want to catch my breath. I want someone to tell me that I am good enough and not feel like every risk I take is a waste of my time because in the end, I'll just be rejected.
I think a key component to not having a hard time with rejection is being confident within yourself. If you are reassured within yourself and your capabilities, then no matter what rejection comes your way, you will be okay because you know your value and your self-worth. I think it is truly about taking that step and finding yourself. So, for the people that always tell me to not let the rejection take over me, just realize that for people who lack that certain confidence within themselves, it's a difficult task to accomplish.
I hope that I will get over this fear of rejection that I have. I also hope that in the future, I will face less rejection and more acceptance in each one of the risks I take within my life. My main goal is to not obsess over the rejection and also to not look at it as a "failure", but more as a motivator to have me continue in my future and always take risk after risk. So yes, currently I do have an extremely difficult time dealing with rejection. But, I am taking steps to better the way I look at certain situations that deal with rejection. My advice? Always take it one day at a time and never give up.
