Often times we tell ourselves we want to be happy. That we want ourselves to have a "happy go lucky" attitude towards how we look at life. But how does one achieve that?
It starts how we think about ourselves. If you think positively, it turns out thinking happy makes you happy.
But it starts with you. The average human has over 52,0000 thoughts a day. I read another article that says over 80% of our thoughts are negative. We think to ourselves that people "think my dress is ugly." "There's no way that I will get this job." It ruins our self-fulfilling prophecy, "Any positive or negative expectation about circumstances, events, or people that may affect a person's behavior toward them in a manner that causes those expectations to be fulfilled."
What about themselves? If a person has negative expectations about themselves, wouldn't his or her behavior to themselves be negative as well? Go back to the 80% and the 52,000 thoughts... so yes.
I was one to think negatively about myself, but not a way of low-self esteem, but in a form of low confidence (which are different, low-self esteem is how you look yourself as a whole and confidence is on how you look at yourself in a situation).
I never thought your way of thinking would form your character, how you operate in the world, how far you travel mentally, physically, and spiritually. You are what you think you are, and I found out the hard way that all of your actions proceed from thought. Your inner thoughts will always be reflected in your outer circumstances, because without knowing, unconsciously you make changes in your life by the way you think about something. Maybe that is why I cut all my hair off impulsively a few years ago, did bad on a certain test, didn't do my best on everything I tried. Because I let my inner thoughts take over.
I know you're probably thinking "I already know this so why are you telling me," about thinking happy. But it's easier said than done. So much we do, the things, the people we hang out with, the music we even listen to have an effect on how we think. If I made a list of everything of you should do in order to make your "thoughts happier" it would be a never ending list. All I can say is science as proven certain things will make you happy: hobbies, doing thinks that make you happy: drawing, writing, sports, diys, which brings us into a giant circle of our thoughts and actions.
The actions we take can literally expand or contract different regions of the brain, firing up circuits or tamping them down. The more you ask your brain to do, the more connections in circuits that underlie the desired behavior or thought and weakening the connections in others. Thus, what you do and what you think, see, or feel is mirrored in the size of your respective brain regions and the connections your brain forms to accommodate your needs. Resulting in the negative and positive thoughts you have. In the in end, it us up to you as a whole person to choice how your gonna think, and even if the negative thoughts come, to not let them take them over you life.