During this time of year the same debate begins and lasts for what feels like ages: should we say Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas? No matter which is said, someone will get upset. One is all-inclusive while the other is specific and sentimental with an aspect of religious value. Here are a few steps to know which phrase to use in the provided context:

1. Know the person to whom you are speaking.

First, do you know if he or she celebrates Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, etc. or none of the above? If so, your holiday greeting should build off of that notion. If you don’t know what specific holiday he or she celebrates, sometimes religious affiliations can help. If they’re Christian, "Merry Christmas" is often your best bet. If he or she is Jewish, "Happy Hanukkah" is usually a great option. However, if he or she is atheist or agnostic, he or she may or may not celebrate Christmas, leaving you without enough information to know for sure.

2. Know the context of the situation.

If step 1 is not enough information to draw a conclusion, think about what the occasion is. Are you at a Christmas party? In line to see Santa at the mall? At a church-related event? If so, odds are Merry Christmas is your best bet. However, if you are working with a customer in the retail, food, service, etc. industries, always go with Happy Holidays. It’s the politically correct phrase that should be used in a professional context.

3. Know the location of the exchange.

If steps 1 and 2 are inconclusive, think about the demographics in the area. If you are in a non-professional environment, the geographical location may help. For example, Merry Christmas is generally the better option in a religious small town while Happy Holidays is better in a progressive populated area.

4. Repeat the phrase he or she provides.

If steps 1 through 3 fail and he or she wishes you a joyful season, respond in the same way he or she began. If he or she says “Merry Christmas,” say Merry Christmas and vice versa.

5. When in doubt, say “Happy Holidays”.

When all else fails, “Happy Holidays” is the all-inclusive and politically correct option, which makes it a better option in cases when his or her preference is in question.

6. Remember that both phrases are meant to be well wishes.

If he or she doesn’t use your preferred phrase in response, don’t be offended. Both “Merry Christmas” a “Happy Holidays” mean “I hope you have a joyous time of year.” It’s like saying “have a good week,” but with a debate that really should not exist. Instead of causing a scene, appreciate the gesture and thank them for it.

I hope this helps those in doubt for the rest of the holiday season and in future years. Happy Holidays to you all, and a very Happy New Year!