Happiness is something immensely sought after in our society, and something everyone from Gandhi to your Great Aunt Susan commented on at some point. It’s something we strive for, and it is an end goal for many of us. However, even after all the discussion and commentary on how we can achieve it, we still have no solid answer.
As far as I’m concerned, happiness is not something bought, and it’s not something found in any one place. I find happiness lies within the little details in life. These are the things needing attention and care, but the negative ones cannot be stressed either.
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” -Marcus Aurelius
When you pay attention to the positive details, you see how immeasurably beautiful life can be. You see the beauty in nature, relationships, human connection, and all the constructs bringing us together. Send that quick good morning text or a sweet “I love you” during the day, call your mom, or take a walk at lunch without looking at your phone.
Not stressing the negative details helps you feel more relaxed, too. For example, if you get stuck in traffic, take that moment to listen to the song on the radio instead of being frustrated. After all, is it really going to matter if you get to your destination one minute later than you were planning? No, you won't even remember it a month from now. Yet, you will remember the days spent with the people you care about and the amazing things you learn or see.
Putting effort into these details makes a huge difference to those around you, as well. You instantly see how much the little things can be appreciated and how much of a difference they make. Plus, how can you not be happier when those around you are happier?
Appreciating the minute details and being content with yourself and what you’re doing, I feel, is a key step to happiness.
“Man falls from the pursuit of the ideal of planned living and high thinking the moment he wants to multiply his daily wants. Man's happiness really lies in contentment.” - Mahatma Gandhi
