If you ask me to hang out at your house, I won’t consider it a date. Surprise! Are you shocked? Confused? Well, don’t be. So many women including myself expect much more these days.

Does this mean I don’t ever want to hang out at your house? Of course not! However, I don’t think that counts as an actual date.

Just to clarify, here's what I consider an "actual date." Getting to know me. Going out and doing something fun together. A bonding moment, a good memory. Doing something together that proves you're interested in who I am as a person instead of just what I look like. But for example, if you invite me to a movie or a kickback of sorts at your house, I’ll see that as just hanging out, not a date.

Times like these are crucial to me in the beginning stages of our relationship. Once we're official, it won't matter as much to me. Further down the line, if we’re at the point in our relationship where we’ve been together for so long it doesn’t matter what we do, then just hanging out is completely fine.

I’m pretty simple when it comes to dating. I don’t expect to be taken out to an extravagant place every time I see you. That’s way too extra for me and I wouldn’t even like that. However, if you want to get to know me and care about me, you need to make an effort.

I’m somewhat old-fashioned, so I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting a man to take me out. It makes me feel GOOD! If that’s the case, I feel like he cares about me, and wants to show his feelings. Taking me out to do something shows that you appreciate and respect me as a person.

I’ll love something as simple as going for a walk and talking about life. Going to some guy’s house all the time just seems too informal in my opinion, at least in the first stages of dating. It seems to be more of a friend or hookup type situation if I just go to someone’s house all the time, and that’s NOT what I’m about.