To the guy who hurt my best friend:

I have a few things I want to say to you.

When my best friend talked about you, I was happy for her. She spoke highly of you and I trusted her judgment. You seemed like you knew how to treat her—always putting her before yourself, taking her out and being respectable. You never lied to her and promised to be the best for her. I accepted you.

But, I’m sorry I did.

When you started dating her, you entered into our friendship as well. My best friend is my sister. Everything you did or didn’t do—I knew about. So when you started to act differently, I began to lose faith in you. I slowly started to dislike you. Why? Because you weren’t holding your promise to be the best to her. Instead, you started to hurt her. She tried to remain positive and even talked to you about your behavior. And through it all, you promised everything was OK and she shouldn’t worry. But you lied. You turned your back on her and broke it off.

You hurt my best friend.

Everyone goes through heartbreak, but I don’t think you understand exactly how much you hurt her. When you broke up with her, you broke her heart. She didn’t lose you as her boyfriend; she lost you as her best friend. You may not think of it this way, but she did.

You broke it off because of your own fears and because you needed to focus on yourself. You didn’t ever think once that she gave up so much for you. You didn’t think that she had to give up time with her friends, gym time, going out... Everyday things... To be there and talk to you. You thought you deserved that.

She was so sad and angry, but she didn’t show that side to you. Just to me. You can’t ever say you feel bad because until you hug her and get calls and texts at 3 a.m. of her crying you will never understand how much she liked you. So don’t pretend you do.

While I can forgive you for that, I can’t forgive you for lying and breaking the biggest promise. When you told her to not worry—she tried not to. But it was hard. She was scared and let herself be vulnerable because she wanted to trust you and believe you meant what you said. And you didn’t. You took her trust and broke it in every way possible. You did not think twice about her. You did not think about what she gave up or what she put herself into. You were selfish and immature. So for that, I will never forgive you.

My best friend is still smiling and stronger than ever. You will never take away her happiness, her spirit, or her smile. I know you miss her and I’m positive you’ll come back to talk and be with her, so I leave you with two options:

1. If you plan on leaving her again, don’t come back at all. If you have any doubts—stay away.
2. If you apologize and want to be in her life, then mean it. Don’t play these games. Realize what you have and work for her. Even if I don’t agree with you coming back, I will put it behind me to support her.

Because my best friend is amazing. And if you ever hurt her again, I will never forgive you.

Sincerely,

Her best friend