Have you ever felt like you were in a rut? Like no matter what you did to try to make yourself feel better it didn't work? It's such a hopeless, frustrating feeling.
These are a few things I have learned over the past few months that have helped me become a happier version of myself:
1. Let go of negative people in your life.
There's nothing worse than hanging around people that constantly bring you down and make you feel like you're not deserving of anything better. You don’t need negativity in your life, cut ties with them or talk to them about how they make you feel.
2. Focus on the good things in life
If you have a roof over your head, food in your stomach, money in your pocket and at least one true person in your life that should be enough for you to realize how lucky you are. Yes, we always want something more but focusing on what you have, rather than what you don't have will instantly improve your mood.
3. Keep yourself busy
It is not uncommon for your mind to keep jumping around when you’re by yourself. When you are alone you have more time to worry and think about things you wish you were doing, could do, or people you want to be with. Keep busy, worry less.
4. Make yourself a priority
Make time for yourself, “me time” is much needed and don’t think that you’re not deserving of it. Go get your nails done, go to the gym by yourself, read a good book, go for a run with your music blasting, or just sit in your room after a long shower and relax.
5. Surround yourself with real people
It’s normal to either when you first get to college or start a new job you stick with people that you initially meet. But, you’re allowed to branch out and find “your people”. Hang out with people that want the best for you, help you achieve great things, and build you up. Nothing’s worse than a fake friend.
6. Find what you're good at and stick with it
Get out of your comfort zone and try something new. Attend a spin class, get flexible at an aerial yoga class, join a book club; do something that you wouldn’t normally do because you might end up loving it.
7.Don’t sell yourself short
This is so important. I constantly sell myself short before trying new things or going to new places because I’m afraid of failure. But, I’ve learned that it’s okay to not be good at something, but you have to at least give it a chance. If you fail or figure out that what you tried wasn’t for you then so be it, at least you stepped out of your comfort zone and gave it a shot!
8. Do what genuinely makes you happy
In conclusion, it’s important to find what you’re good at, people that have a positive impact on your life, and a hobby you enjoy. You deserve the best, don’t settle for anything less. You will find your happiness.