I have never had the chance to call someone "Daddy" or "Dad". Although I do have vague memories of my "father", whom I now refer to as my sperm donor, they were very fleeting moments and did not continue throughout my life. I don't know how long it's been exactly since I've seen him or had contact with him, but I am certain I was under the age of 10. I've never lacked for anything, but it is difficult to grasp sometimes the lack of an actual father in my life. My mother never spoke of him, and I'm nearing adulthood now, and I still don't know my sperm donor.
Growing up, I didn't feel his absence because I've always had my mother to provide for me and make sure I always had what I needed. I believe that single parents are actually a form of an everyday superhero because somehow, they magically make due with one income and still create a happy child. I won't lie and say that I feel empty or anything because I don't. I realize many other people who only grew up with one parent do but I believe that I don't because I did grow up with numerous, wonderful father figures within my life. Due to this, I don't feel like I'll ever need a real father now. Although I am mildly disgusted with my "father", I'm not angry and I never have been. Frankly, it's his loss and I don't feel like the bridge between us can ever be repaired, and I am not ever planning to try to cross it again.
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My message to anyone who does feel empty or simply has bad feelings because they don't have one parent in their life is that there is no reason to even let it bother you. Nor should you be the one putting forth an effort to establish or maintain a relationship with them. They have chosen to be absent so let them. I believe if they love you as their child, they would do everything possible to maintain a relationship with you. And many don't do that, so don't waste your time or breath. Life goes on with or without them and it is up to their conscious to remind them of their wrongdoing. Appreciate the parent and motherly/fatherly figures in you do have in your life and don't dwell on the issue.
