No one wants to talk about it seriously. It is all a joke. Has anyone noticed how much more we are hearing about “having a side-chick”? It is a common occurrence now to have two or three people at once in the dating world. We allow it to happen. Girl world is wrought with women thinking “Well it isn’t my friend being hurt” but switching their position in a second when they find out they are not the only woman in some man’s life. If you think that way when finding out the man your with has someone else then who’s to say that other women aren’t thinking exactly like you? We allow men to treat us like disposable cameras. We don’t set clear boundaries then someone does something we don’t like, we forgive them without a second thought. Sometimes a guy spins a really sweet story or a soppy sad one, says he will never do it again. But the next time he is just better at hiding it. I’m not saying women don’t have “side-guys”. You can bet your bottom dollar they do. The thing is though women are so much more worried about their man having a side piece that it always diverts the attention off of them. If you went through a girl’s phone she is just as likely to have pictures, numbers, and texts from some other guys trying to make her a side chick as a guy is to have pictures, numbers, and texts to some girl trying to make her a side chick.

This kind of thinking is becoming more and more common as the media starts to bombard its viewers and listeners with main-chick-side chick epidemic. Shows like Scandal help propel this into our culture as well, so much so there is even a WikiHow page devoted to how to be a side chick. Vine is one of the great contributors to the joke as well. The thing is there is a reason why we are starting to allow ourselves to just slip into this role, both men and women. We get lonely and with so many options out there, so many dating sites, it’s hard to pick just one from the menu. It is like a challenge trying to drag yourself away from sites like Meet-Me, Kik, and Tinder. They all introduce you to people that you may never have crossed paths with organically. Also when you get lonely and it’s so hard to find someone you truly like in a world of open-markets you just want someone who is going to shower you with the perfect rom-com style love. Usually a mistress or mister is treated better than the wife or husband. They are shown more affection, more attention, receive dinners more often, because we are afraid to lose that person. They become the ones we try to keep as all other romance for the person who has been faithful to us goes out the window. All the efforts are turned towards the side piece or trying to cover up that you have a side piece. This really is an epidemic. There are no more negative thoughts about divorce so why not keep looking when you are married? Truth is with this kind of thinking there won’t be a need for any sort of commitment anymore, there won’t be any point.