A negative mind will never give you a positive life. It's easy to get caught up in the stress and chaos that surrounds you every day, but you cannot let it bring you down. I feel as though the root of a lot of people's unhappiness is that they hold on to negativity. We often allow ourselves to dwell on the bad things going on in our life and we dig ourselves into a very deep hole. Think of all the unnecessary crap you are holding on to right now and how it is hindering your life. By letting go of the things that only hurt you, you are able to make room to let positivity in.
We all have baggage and things we wish we could change, we all have crap that we carry around with us. But who said we have to hold onto it all for the rest of our lives? I've learned that sh*t happens and sometimes life doesn't go the way you want it to, sometimes you're going to get hurt and sometimes you're going to be unhappy. Negative feelings are going to happen, but you don't have to hold on to them. Your mistakes and your struggles do not have to define you. You can simply just let them go.
Letting go is difficult, it's honestly one of the hardest things in the world. Honestly though you are hurting yourself more by holding on to bitterness and resentment. Letting go is different for everyone depending on the situation. Maybe you take all the pictures of your old best friend down, maybe you burn the letters from your ex, maybe you tell yourself every day that it wasn't your fault. Whatever it is that is eating away at you has got to go, because that energy could be better spent working towards happiness.
Surround yourself with good people and good things. Think about all the people and activities in your life and ask yourself if they make you feel good, and if not, let that shit go. There's no sense in keeping toxic people or things in your life. Instead of wasting your time loving someone who will never love you back, put your energy into loving the people who love you unconditionally. Instead of going to the gym even though you hate it, find something that makes working out enjoyable for you. Whatever is making you feel like crap in your life, get rid of it.
You have to be able to put yourself first. I know it's hard, but you deserve it. Inhale whatever it is that makes you glad you are alive and exhale all the sh*tty things that have ever happened to you and the shitty people who did them. Inhale love and positivity and exhale anger and sadness. Welcome positivity into your life and eliminate negativity.
Don't waste another day breathing in toxic air. Take in who and what feels good and f*ck the rest.
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11 Things I Learned My Freshman Year of College
Not everything you learn in college can be found in a textbook.
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Breanna Vogel
One of the scariest things we will ever face in our life is going to college. Many of us move away to a new town, join new organizations, and make new friends. We are expected to study, have a social life, relationships, maybe work, and be healthy. It seems pretty easy to do, and in high school all we wanted to do was graduate and move on to this next chapter of our lives. If you are in high school, here are some things that you can learn from before you get to college. If you have already been through your freshman year of college, hopefully you can relate to the things I have learned in college.
Your self control and motivation directly correlate to how close the end of the semester is.
You start the beginning of each semester very hopeful and excited for all your new classes, but that excitement lessens each week of the semester. By the end, you are searching for every excuse to not complete your homework or to even leave your dorm room. Because leaving your dorm room means looking presentable, and at this point you do not even have the motivation for that.
Group projects seem to be something created by the devil himself.
Even though you know that there are plenty of people smarter than you, it seems that you always get stuck with the group members that do not measure up to your standards. Your partners never ask you about the project until the last minute, so you complete most of it yourself. Another outcome is that they do not care about the work they are doing, therefore, you end up doing the project yourself. Just like a unicorn, it is rare to get amazing partners for group projects.
Remember when you were young and you knew everything there was to know? Wrong: you knew nothing.
Once we hit high school we thought we knew everything we would ever have to know. We anxiously waited to turn 18 because being an adult couldn't possibly that hard. Turns out, once you become an adult, everything you learned your entire life has no purpose in your life. You have to know how to budget your money, create a killer resume and cover letter, change your flat tire and cook for yourself. None of these skills were taught in high school. Adulting is hard, very hard.
If there is free food offered - go!
When you get to college, you are so excited to have so many food options within a five-minute walk of your dorm room. By the end of the first semester there already seems like there is nothing good on campus because you are already so sick of the same restaurants you've been eating at for six months. Usually, at the beginning and end of each semester there are endless options for free food because everyone is either recruiting or celebrating their club. Write down the meeting times and go eat some free food. You might even find a really awesome organization because of going.
Never believe a professor when they tell you "Don't worry, this won't be on the test."
Professors are notorious for saying that the class does does not need to worry about a certain slide on the PowerPoint, or a certain section of the book, but there is a 99 percent chance that there will be one or more questions about it on the next exam. So, you might as well memorize every slide the professor has and every page of your text book. Or, do some educated guessing, which is probably the more likely alternative. And if you are guessing, just know that "C" is the most common answer on multiple choice tests.
If you want a relationship with someone, it will take effort.
When you get to college you will hear "your future spouse could be in this room right now". If you were annoyed with the couples holding hands and kissing in the hallways in high school, just wait until all your friends are getting engaged. You will meet some really awesome people in college, and you may find someone you want to have a relationship with. This relationship may be just a friendship, or way more than that. Just know, it takes a lot of effort. Class, homework, meetings, activities and friends keep you very busy, so you will need to make time when you can. Dating looks a lot different in college, it is doing homework together, walking to class together, sitting in church together and grabbing a quick lunch together. But, if you are willing to put in the effort, it is so worth it.
Check your email before you trudge all the way to class to find out it is cancelled.
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You just walked all the way to class while the snow was blowing in your face and the temperature is below zero. You get to class and see that class is cancelled. You trudge all the way back to your dorm room to see that you got an email this morning that class was cancelled. Then you get upset with yourself because you could have stayed in bed for an extra three hours and watched Netflix.
You do not need a ton of friends, just a couple of really good ones.
You meet so many people during your first semester that it seems like you have more friends than you can manage, but as time goes on, you find your people and you stick with them. You probably won't be best friends with the girl you met at orientation. You probably won't be best friends with the people you went to high school with, but you will find your group, and they will be there for you no matter
what.
Take the time to do what you love.
You will spend countless hours doing homework, studying for tests and reading textbooks. Make sure you are taking time to do things that you love to do because otherwise you will not enjoy your time in college. Take a break from studying and take a walk with a friend. Spend the weekend exploring new places around your college. Take the time to have some fun and relax because college can be pretty stressful.
Every Saturday you will avoid doing homework like it is the plague. When Sunday rolls around you will complain that you have way too much stuff to do and not enough time to do it.
On Saturday you want to sleep in, hang out with friends, and not look at a single book or even open your email. Most of Sunday you will do the exact same thing and then try to cram all your homework into a few short hours. Then you will whine and complain about how you do not have enough time in your life to do all this homework. But, you will never admit it is because you are a great procrastinator.
Your college experience is what you make of it.
You may not have a clue what you want to do in the future, but that is OK. College has plenty of opportunities for you to figure that out. While you figure it out, make the most out of your experience. You can choose to get involved and have a lot of fun, or you can choose not to. No matter what, just know that you control how great your college experience will be. So go out and try new things, join new clubs and meet new people. College can either be the best four years of your life or the worst.
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12 Long-Term Relationship Milestones
You've got a keeper if you've made it to any of these milestones.
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You've been together for so long. It's great. And as the time spent in your relationship grows, you hit certain milestones where you know it's real. These can be make-or-break moments, or just little things where you finally realize that you're both doing it. Everybody hits these milestones, no matter how long it takes; they're inevitable.
You know you've made it when you hit these long-term relationship milestones.
So. Many. Inside. Jokes.
You can't help it--once you have spent that much time with somebody, you're bound to have jokes just between the two of you.
Selfie masters
You now have more photos together than you do apart. Your entire camera roll is photos of the two of you.
What's personal hygiene?
You've gone past the point of no return: no makeup, sweatpants, maybe your hair is unwashed? But it doesn't matter, because you're comfortable with your significant other.
Knowing what to order
Photo by Jeremy Bishop on UnsplashYou know exactly what to order them when they want food--and they'll do the same for you. You know their order like the back of your hand, and it's secondhand nature now when you pull into the drive-through.
Caring for hobbies
It begins when you start to genuinely care about their hobbies and favorite things. You're truly enjoying what they enjoy while you're with them.
Offend who?
You two know you're just joking around, but to others, you sound like you hate each other. It's just a weird way of showing affection, I promise.
Deep conversations
You know you're truly close with someone once you can have deep conversations without it being weird. Hitting these pretty much means there's no going back now.
Who pays?
One of you can't go on paying for the other for the rest of your lives (and, come on, it's 2016). Splitting bills or taking turns paying for dates or food is a good sign--everything is fair, and there's no feeling awkward about money.
Becoming a two-for-one package deal
If you're alone, people start asking where your S.O. is, and vice versa. You go everywhere together when you can--and there's nothing wrong with that.
Bodily functions
Being comfortable with another person means a lot of things: you can talk to them without fear of being judged, and you can also hear them fart around you.
You can be weird
There's no stopping you now--once the weird has been unleashed, there is absolutely no way to put it back.
Code words
Is what you're speaking even English anymore? Although, as long as the two of you know what a word means, does it even matter?
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10 Of The Best Shows To Binge Watch Over Winter Break
You've got a busy break ahead of you.
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As the semester is coming to an end, most of us are going to have more free time on our hands. This calls for binge watching a new show on Netflix and really using this break to relax from the stress of school. Here are some of the best shows on Netflix that you should be watching.
Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
This is a musical series about a woman who leaves her prestigious job in Manhattan to follow her ex-boyfriend to a small town in California. This series is unlike any other, making it a must watch on Netflix!
Jane The Virgin
This show is about a young girl, Jane Villanueva, who is accidentally inseminated by a specimen that was meant for a patient in the next room. This show has to be one of the best comedies on TV right now. What makes it very unique is although it is a comedy, it contains a compelling storyline with unexpected thrills as well.
Arrow
This show is based off a character in DC Comics, where the main character Oliver Queen fights crime in Starling City using just a bow and arrow. The series is a combination of dark characters with a sprinkle of humor here and there. Not to mention the main character is extremely nice to look at (you’re welcome ladies).
The Flash
This is a spinoff series from Arrow, but has a totally different story line. The main character Barry Allen, who is a forensic scientist for the Central City Police Department, is struck by lighting and given the power of speed. Like Arrow, The Flash has a team of people behind him who help him fight crime in Central City. The only downside is if you are going to watch this show it is smart to also watch Arrow simultaneously, as the two shows tend to intertwine with one another.
The Office
The Office is one of the greatest sitcoms in history. The first four seasons are the best of the series when Steve Carrell was still a apart of the cast.
Gilmore Girls
Being that the show has just released a new season Gilmore Girls Revival, catching up on the later seasons could be a good idea. It is a great show to watch if you need a break from life.
Orange is the New Black
This in my opinion, is the best original show on Netflix. It features a diversity of characters with a compelling story line, that is extremely addictive.
Friends
If you haven't seen this show yet, you've been living under a rock.
Breaking Bad
There’s nothing I can say about this that I’m sure you don’t already know. As everyone says, this is the best series of all time.
The Vampire Diaries
Despite what critics say, The Vampire Diaries is not just a knock off of Twilight. The storyline goes in the complete opposite direction and has it’s own unique characters. This follows the life of a beautiful teenage girl, Elena Gilbert, who is stuck in a love triangle with two vampire brothers, Stefan and Damon Salvatore. Not only is this series compacted with action and thrill, but it offers one of the best romance stories of all time.
Well there ya have it. So which show are you going to binge watch over break?
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11 Gifs That Explain Your Lazy Weekend
Get ready for 2.5 days of doing absolutely nothing
28 December
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Kayla Master
Admit it: everyone loves to have a lazy weekend every once in a while. Not too much work to do, comfy clothes, Netflix binge sessions: just a few of the perfect components of a relaxing weekend. While you may get to a point where you regret doing absolutely nothing with your weekend, you just got to pull through and finish out this weekend to prove that you can go 2.5 days without accomplishing a single thing.
1) When you get home from class/work Friday afternoon and change into sweats
Is there any better feeling then slipping out of jeans or real pants and its pillows for your legs?
2) Calling to order takeout from your favorite place and eagerly awaiting for it to arrive at your door
You're also not ashamed if the caller knows your regular order or already has your phone number and address saved in the system. It's also okay to order online to have one less person to be forced to talk to.
3) When the delivery guy gets here and you literally sprint to the door
You've sometimes startled the guy by opening the door .5 seconds after he rang the door bell
4) When you just sleep on the couch so that way when you wake up in the morning you can pick up where you left off
And if you're spending your lazy weekend in your bed, it makes the transition from binge watching to sleeping to binge watching so much easier.
5) When you wake up and have to debate if it's too early to reheat your leftovers from the night before (if there is any)
Is 9 a.m. too early for some leftover Lo Mein or some cold pizza? Maybe just get through one episode before creeping to the fridge.
6) When its halfway through Saturday and you already finished the show you thought would take you all weekend.
Now comes the ultimate debate of what to spend the next day and a half watching. Is it worth it watch a whole new show or should you just rewatch an old fave? Decisions, decisions.
7) When it's starting to hit dinner time and you got to decide if you want to eat greasy takeout again or try to find something a little healthier
Don't kid yourself, just pick up the phone and make the call.
8) When people try to make plans with you but you come up with an excuse to stay at home
You'll try to make up some excuse but eventually you might just tell them the truth that you're wayyyyy too lazy to move off the couch.
9) When you get to a point where you look around and realize you're in the same sweatpants as Friday night
Lazy weekends justify wearing the same outfit for multiple days in a row.
10) When you remember something that you probably should've gotten done, but just pretend to forget about it
You know, it just wasn't meant to get done this weekend and that's a-okay
11) When it gets to late Sunday night and you realize you haven't showered since Friday morning (or Thursday night...)
At this point, you might as well wait until Monday morning, there's no point in ruining your perfect lazy weekend by preparing for the week to come.
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Lifestyle
10 Truths About Being In A Sorority
(For Girls Who Are Interested In Greek Life)
27 December
3171
Rebekah Lee
I remember my freshman year oh so well. I remember feeling terrified the night before orientation. The one thing that I dreaded the most was not the new people, the new environment, or even the academic pressure. I was dreading having to talk to sorority girls about Recruitment. I remember cutting off and avoiding any Rho Gamma/Panhellenic Officer that came my way during First Week. I looked at them like they had asked me to cut my arm off whenever they asked me if I wanted to rush. To be honest, I did not even know what rush was, but I knew that I did NOT want to be a part of it. To me, it was dumb. It was a waste of money. It was a waste of my time.
And guess what? I did not rush my freshman year. I spent the first half of my freshman year isolating myself from everyone on campus. I spent all of my time in the library, and then (since I was a commuter) went back home once my work was finished.
I was lonely. I was miserable. I was in need of sisterhood.
Fast forward to my second semester of college. A bad breakup put me into the mindset that I needed to put myself out there. I needed to develop relationships with people on campus. Through my new boyfriend, I became friends with girls and guys involved in Greek life and realized I had made a huge mistake. I then decided to rush the fall of my sophomore year.
I went through rush as a sophomore and even though it was anxiety inducing and stressful, I still found my home. I met wonderful girls who were on the same journey as me and now we share a Panhellenic bond that beats awkward orientation "ice breakers" any day.
Maybe you're interested in Greek life too. Maybe you're just as confused as I was last year. If you are still a little weary about the idea of Greek life, take a look into some truths about what it is like to be a part of a sorority!
We Learn How To Lead
As a member of a sorority, you are given the opportunity to run for a position in the chapter. This can run anywhere from the president to a small position. Regardless of the duties and actual job of the position, sisters who hold positions can learn a lot about themselves. Most importantly, they learn valuable leadership skills that they will take with them wherever they go in life.
We Have A Financial Obligation
I am not going to lie and say that we don't. But I promise that it's worth it. Contrary to popular belief, we don't buy our friends. Wow. Crazy, right? Our monthly dues go toward important activities such as mixers, socials, formal, semi-formal, and some chapters even use their dues to send sisters to leadership conferences and sisterhood retreats. We pay for our social outlets. And like the cliche goes, "If I had paid for my friends, I surely did not pay enough" Not only do our dues pay for our activities, but it teaches each sister to learn the valuable lesson of controlling her money and paying a monthly bill.
We Like To Eat (Together)
You will never sit alone at lunch ever again. Or at Chick-fil-A. Or Moe's. If there is one thing that we love more than sisterhood, it's food. Sisters who eat together, stay together.
We Support Each Other
Photo by Melissa Askew on UnsplashI know that whenever I need advice, support, or someone to be completely honest with me, I can turn to my sisters. There are times when we seriously mess up in life, but we can always count on our biggest supporters. If a sister calls me in her time of trouble, I am more than willing to step in and help her. We sit and listen to each other freak out about papers and tests. We cheer each other up. We are each other's lifeline, no matter what.
We Aren't Cookie Cutter Versions Of Each Other
This is a common stereotype about sorority women (maybe it's the matching Bid Day shirts). It's not true at all. In fact, we are a diverse group of women with our own talents and abilities. In fact, we strive to promote diversity in almost everything we do. Each of us brings something different to the chapter and it's not all t-shirt ideas. In one big group, sure, we may look all the same, but each girl is different in their own perfect way.
We Still Have Bad Days
Photo by Zhivko Minkov on UnsplashWe are still human and even though we are surrounded by women who love and support us, we still break. Joining a sorority is not a cure-all for every problem we may face in life. You as a rushee may experience a girl who was not being genuine with you during rush because she's had a tough week. Or maybe we did not stop to say hi to you on our way to class because we just failed a test. We have bad days too, but don't let that sway your decision.
We Care About Our Grades
Photo by Kyle Gregory Devaras on UnsplashBelieve it or not, grades are a very important part of being in a sorority. We are in college to get an education, after all, and our chapters respect this. All Greek Letter organizations have a GPA requirement and though they may differ from one to another, it is strongly enforced. Most chapters have study hours that they are required to attend in order to keep their sisters in their studies.
We Have Families And It's Confusing, But Wonderful
There comes a time in every new member's life that they find out who her big sister is. It's one of the best days of her life. But soon after she falls in love with her big, she discovers that she has a twin, an aunt, a great-aunt, a grand-big, a cousin, etc. You have your immediate family (your big, twin, g-big), but then you find out it goes back for ages and it can be really overwhelming. As hard as it is to explain how Greek families work, it's best to just enjoy what is given to you. These are the people who you have another awesome bond with and will always be down for anything with you.
We Like To Have Fun
Photo by Jed Villejo on UnsplashWith all the stress of school, work, mandatory events, and late night studying we like to let loose a little. Whether it be a Gossip Girl marathon, a social, or just painting the town red, we like to have fun and we are pretty darn good at it. There is no better entourage than that of your sista friends!
We Genuinely Love Our Sisters
Photo by Olena Bohovyk on UnsplashI am about to get really cheesy on you but bear with me here. We do not just go around acting like we love our sisters because we wear the same letters on our chests. We don't "pretend" to love the girls we don't get along with because deep down, they are still our sisters.
The bond that we share through sisterhood is a bond that cannot be explained from the outside looking in or the inside looking out. I would go above and beyond for my sisters and they would do the same for me. Even when drama shows up, we can always look back to what holds us together as a chapter. That is what it is all about.
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