Being A Good Friend Does Not Equal Being A Doormat | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Friendships

Being A Good Friend Does Not Mean Being A Doormat

Good people and good friends aren't where you should wipe your dirty feet.

144
mug with coffee

Just to begin, I was raised a bit differently than most people I know. I was raised up with certain moral codes and under strict behavioral standards. Naturally, more than just laws of civility and the decencies of humanity. However, if I have learned anything from being raised the way I was, it enlightened me on the fact that people often take advantage of good friends and good people if you allow them too. But, being a good person doesn't depend on where you come from or how you were raised. It depends on how you choose to respond to and treat those around you despite personal circumstances.

A good person ≠ their circumstances

Helping people is what I love to do. I hope to never fail a friend or family member in need. No matter what, I want to be of assistance to those around me. In doing so, I've noticed that those who always make themselves available to help others rarely come in contact with those who help them. This is not always the case, some are blessed enough to have outstanding support systems. Still, this does not change the fact that often if you prove yourself dependable, you become a crutch. If you are a good listener when things go awry, you become a personal therapist. Being helpful turns into caretaking. Through all this, those in our lives that are truly good people and friends continue to be and do so without expecting reciprocity.

A good person ≠ a catch-all for others' problems

Be warned though, those who take on more for other people than they are able to carry do have a breaking point. Most often, the breaking of a good person is something tragic to partake in or see.

A good person ≠ unbreakable

On a related note, just because a person is morally aligned or holds themselves to certain standards does nor deem them boring or any less interesting of a person. Every right an individual has to lead the lifestyle of their choosing is the same right those with strict living standards imposed on themselves have to lead that life.

Moral ≠ boring

This is not an intervention to call out everyone who has maybe or maybe not been responsible for these misunderstandings. This simply stands to draw attention to those we inadvertently take advantage of. These are our really good friends that stick with us through thick and thin despite what they receive from us in return. These are our go to's for advice and sound boarding despite if we offer it in return. These are our good friends that push down their hurts, offenses, and feelings in an attempt to avoid causing that for anyone else. These are our friends that let everyone forget about them until they're needed and still stand by us. Good friends deserve more than they get. Good friends are not our doormats that we wipe our problems and shortcomings on.

Good friends ≠ doormats

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Drake
Hypetrak

1. Nails done hair done everything did / Oh you fancy huh

You're pretty much feeling yourself. New haircut, clothes, shoes, everything. New year, new you, right? You're ready for this semester to kick off.

Keep Reading...Show less
7 Ways to Make Your Language More Transgender and Nonbinary Inclusive

With more people becoming aware of transgender and non-binary people, there have been a lot of questions circulating online and elsewhere about how to be more inclusive. Language is very important in making a space safer for trans and non-binary individuals. With language, there is an established and built-in measure of whether a place could be safe or unsafe. If the wrong language is used, the place is unsafe and shows a lack of education on trans and non-binary issues. With the right language and education, there can be more safe spaces for trans and non-binary people to exist without feeling the need to hide their identities or feel threatened for merely existing.

Keep Reading...Show less
Blair Waldorf
Stop Hollywood

For those of you who have watched "Gossip Girl" before (and maybe more than just once), you know how important of a character Blair Waldorf is. Without Blair, the show doesn’t have any substance, scheme, or drama. Although the beginning of the show started off with Blair’s best friend Serena returning from boarding school, there just simply is no plot without Blair. With that being said, Blair’s presence in the show in much more complex than that. Her independent and go-getter ways have set an example for "Gossip Girl" fans since the show started and has not ended even years after the show ended. Blair never needed another person to define who she was and she certainly didn’t need a man to do that for her. When she envisioned a goal, she sought after it, and took it. This is why Blair’s demeanor encompasses strong women like her.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

20 Feelings Anyone Who Loves To Sing Has

Sometimes, we just can't help the feelings we have

1228
singing
Cambio

Singing is something I do all day, every day. It doesn't matter where I am or who's around. If I feel like singing, I'm going to. It's probably annoying sometimes, but I don't care -- I love to sing! If I'm not singing, I'm probably humming, sometimes without even realizing it. So as someone who loves to sing, these are some of the feelings and thoughts I have probably almost every day.

Keep Reading...Show less
success
Degrassi.Wikia

Being a college student is one of the most difficult task known to man. Being able to balance your school life, work life and even a social life is a task of greatness. Here's an ode to some of the small victories that mean a lot to us college students.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments