Don't Give Up On Love In Your 20s - There's A Reason Why Dating Is A Sh*t Show
Start writing a post
Relationships

Don't Give Up On Love In Your 20s - There's A Reason Why Dating Is A Sh*t Show

Saying you'll "die alone" in your 20s is like saying you'll never find a job at age 5.

272
Don't Give Up On Love In Your 20s - There's A Reason Why Dating Is A Sh*t Show

Earning your degree, starting your career, buying your own groceries, using your first credit card - your 20s are a decade packed with firsts that trick you into thinking you need to have everything figured out. Including your love life. Aunt Susan asking year after year if you're bringing someone to Thanksgiving doesn't help either. But here's the thing - your 20s are just the beginning. Let's put aside the stupid social construct passed down from our great-great-grandparents that make us think you have to find the love of your life before 30 (or at all) to be happy and fulfilled.

From personal experience and the experiences of my friends and family, I have a theory about why dating is such a shit show at this time in our lives: maturity. I'm not saying people in their 20s are dumb or aren't capable of having a serious relationship, because many are. But our brains are literally still developing, and we've only had a few decades on this earth to figure out who we are, what we want out of life, and how to handle any shit that already might be weighing us down.

Saying you'll "die alone" in your 20s is like saying you'll never find a job at age 5. Some (a lot) of people just aren't ready for it yet. And THAT'S OKAY!

It takes time and a lot of self-work to be truly ready to commit to someone, and that's a hard thing to accomplish for people this young. That's why they say your 20s is a time to "figure out what you want" - and that doesn't just apply to relationships. It applies to your whole life. If you're eager to settle down with someone but are frustrated with what dating has been like so far, consider taking a step back and changing your perspective. Consider not expecting so much out of people who, like you, are still getting the hang of the whole adulting thing.


Dating in your 20s can be an absolute shit show, and it's easy to become cynical about finding the person who you really vibe with. But next time you get ghosted, the next time your date makes you instant ramen for dinner, remember - you have plenty of time to figure it out.
Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
the beatles
Wikipedia Commons

For as long as I can remember, I have been listening to The Beatles. Every year, my mom would appropriately blast “Birthday” on anyone’s birthday. I knew all of the words to “Back In The U.S.S.R” by the time I was 5 (Even though I had no idea what or where the U.S.S.R was). I grew up with John, Paul, George, and Ringo instead Justin, JC, Joey, Chris and Lance (I had to google N*SYNC to remember their names). The highlight of my short life was Paul McCartney in concert twice. I’m not someone to “fangirl” but those days I fangirled hard. The music of The Beatles has gotten me through everything. Their songs have brought me more joy, peace, and comfort. I can listen to them in any situation and find what I need. Here are the best lyrics from The Beatles for every and any occasion.

Keep Reading...Show less
Being Invisible The Best Super Power

The best superpower ever? Being invisible of course. Imagine just being able to go from seen to unseen on a dime. Who wouldn't want to have the opportunity to be invisible? Superman and Batman have nothing on being invisible with their superhero abilities. Here are some things that you could do while being invisible, because being invisible can benefit your social life too.

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

19 Lessons I'll Never Forget from Growing Up In a Small Town

There have been many lessons learned.

70755
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee
nappy.co

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

132373
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments