I Decided to Give Myself a Second Chance
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

I Decided to Give Myself a Second Chance

To the person who feels like there is no way to overcome the feeling of being broken.

735
I Decided to Give Myself a Second Chance
Jeena Cho

Friend,

You are ready to give up, throw in the towel, give in or move on.

You. Are. Done.

And the problem is you feel like there is nothing you can do to change the outcome of the situation you are given. You may feel hopeless, destroyed and just utterly lost. I've been there too, friend. I know what is going through your mind, your body and your broken spirit. But you cannot give up, throw in the towel, give in or move on. You have to give yourself a second chance; you have to be the warrior we both know you are deep inside.

I was told a dream that I have worked for, fantasized about, bled for, cried about, given up almost everything for would never become a reality, and I was broken. Not the "shed a few tears because I am sad and then get over it" broken, but the kind of broken that made me question why I was still in school, why I was still working my butt off for something that would never be mine, and why I was putting on a happy face in front of the people who broke me.

I considered taking off and going for a cross-country vacation. I would make up the school work when I decided I was ready. Frankly, I just flat out didn't care anymore. I didn't care about my grades, I didn't care that my friends wouldn't know where I was and I really didn't care that the people who hurt me could possibly be affected by my decisions.

This, of course, is no way to think. These actions would hurt more than just my friends, my future and myself. It took me a long time to realize that I could no longer be broken, and it took me an even longer time to realize that even though I wanted to run away, I had to pick myself up from the ashes of my despair and choose to be the strong individual I knew I could be. I had to give myself a second chance.

Second chances are the best things in the world. We give them to our friends and family when they hurt us, and we are given them in order to make ourselves better. So, why when we give others a second chance, would we not give ourselves a second chance? Trust me, I wanted to be done too. I wanted nothing more than to be separated from the people who broke me, but I didn't run away, and you shouldn't either.

The day I decided to give myself a second chance was no special day. Nothing happened that sparked an "Aha!" moment. But it was and is a day that has changed my perspective about adversity and the way I will handle myself in the future.

That day, I decided that there is no one on this earth that is allowed to dictate my happiness. I decided that even though others may define me by my past mistakes, this is not how I am going to see myself. I decided that I will work my hardest to inspire myself and make myself proud. I decided that I will no longer let the people who broke me have the pleasure of seeing me broken. Finally, I decided that no matter what life throws at me, I will always come out stronger, more confident and more resilient than ever before.

I gave myself a second chance at living the life I want to live. Friend, I am here to tell you that you also have the opportunity to give yourself a second chance. If you are looking for a sign, this is it. Take back your happiness and your success, and give yourself that second chance (or third, or fourth, or fifth chance ... because if you're anything like me, you like to make the same mistake six or seven times before learning your lesson). Be that strong, independent, wild one we know you want to be again.

Sincerely,

Someone who learned her lesson


"et lux in tenebris lucet, et tenebræ eam non comprehenderunt" --and the light shines in the darkness and the darkness cannot overcome it.

Be your own damn light.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
the beatles
Wikipedia Commons

For as long as I can remember, I have been listening to The Beatles. Every year, my mom would appropriately blast “Birthday” on anyone’s birthday. I knew all of the words to “Back In The U.S.S.R” by the time I was 5 (Even though I had no idea what or where the U.S.S.R was). I grew up with John, Paul, George, and Ringo instead Justin, JC, Joey, Chris and Lance (I had to google N*SYNC to remember their names). The highlight of my short life was Paul McCartney in concert twice. I’m not someone to “fangirl” but those days I fangirled hard. The music of The Beatles has gotten me through everything. Their songs have brought me more joy, peace, and comfort. I can listen to them in any situation and find what I need. Here are the best lyrics from The Beatles for every and any occasion.

Keep Reading...Show less
Being Invisible The Best Super Power

The best superpower ever? Being invisible of course. Imagine just being able to go from seen to unseen on a dime. Who wouldn't want to have the opportunity to be invisible? Superman and Batman have nothing on being invisible with their superhero abilities. Here are some things that you could do while being invisible, because being invisible can benefit your social life too.

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

19 Lessons I'll Never Forget from Growing Up In a Small Town

There have been many lessons learned.

70985
houses under green sky
Photo by Alev Takil on Unsplash

Small towns certainly have their pros and cons. Many people who grow up in small towns find themselves counting the days until they get to escape their roots and plant new ones in bigger, "better" places. And that's fine. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought those same thoughts before too. We all have, but they say it's important to remember where you came from. When I think about where I come from, I can't help having an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for my roots. Being from a small town has taught me so many important lessons that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

Keep Reading...Show less
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee
nappy.co

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

132546
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments