Hey, girl who's technically single but also not in a relationship. I see you. I feel you. I know what you're thinking.
You think Valentine's Day is the time that the guy you've been waiting on is finally going to swoop in and tell you he's finally ready to commit to you. He'll yell up to you down from the bottom of your castle to let down your hair.
In case you didn't know, there's a pretty good chance that that's not going to happen. You see, guys loathe Valentine's Day for this very reason. They know there's this pressure coming from you, or your friends, or maybe even their own friends, to make things official with you. I know you're probably thinking, "Well, DUH! That's what Valentine's Day is for!".
That is why I myself loathe Valentine's Day, too. I hate the false hope and having your expectations crumble to the ground when you don't get a card, a single rose, or God-forbid asked on a date.
I'm not bitter, I swear. I just want you to be well aware that there's a very slim chance that February 14th is the day your man wakes up and decides he wants to be with you.
What's telling him to act nice to you on this day is the media, the TV, and the supermarket's cheap flowers and chocolate on sale. Unless he's bringing you chocolate on a random Thursday or picking up something for you that reminds him of you, then his actions on V-Day probably aren't all that genuine.
Think about it. Do you really want a guy that only shows how much he cares for you on the 14th day of February?
Maybe it's just me, but if he hasn't asked you to be his girl yet and you've been seeing each other for five to six months, Valentine's Day is not the day he's going to decide to ask you to be his, unless he has been waiting so impatiently the last three weeks that you know he couldn't wait to ask you to be his girlfriend.
But once again, these chances are slim.
If he's still keeping you in the dark from his friends, hitting you up at 11 P.M., keeping you off his social media, or in that matter, a secret from everyone, then girl. Accept things as they are, and if you're okay with all that you are to him, then that's between you and him. Not saying you're just a booty call, but hey, if the shoe fits...
Stop thinking he's going to wake up and suddenly profess his love to you on social media just because it's Valentine's Day.
Stop thinking he's going to come knocking on your dorm room with a giant Teddy Bear as Taylor Lautner did for T-Swift.
Stop thinking he's going to surprise you with a "Princess" Pandora Ring and a gold-dipped rose.
I'll tell you what to do. Go buy the prettiest outfit or get your sweats on, do your hair real nice or put it in a bun, and pour yourself a bottle of wine. Go to the freezer and grab that carton of ice cream, don't forget the sprinkles, and call up your Galentines!
Have a girls night with your other "technically single / kind of not single" friends and watch "The Break-Up", "Titanic", "Valentine's Day", or maybe even "Gone Girl."
Turn your phone off. Forget him for the night. Show him that Valentine's Day is about loving yourself, not about him or how he feels about you.
From,
One technically single / kind of not single girl to another. Xo.
