The other day my boyfriend showed me a brutally honest list of actions women do in a relationship that if men were to do these actions it would be considered abuse called, "Brutally Honest Post Explains How Girls Are Abusing Their Boyfriends, Check If You’re Not Doing It Too". I have always believed I was more conscious than most girls about these types of things, but after reading this list I was dumbfounded. Several of the bullets I knew I was guilty of, and many others I could think of a lot of girls that were guilty as well. As a response, I want to give girls some advice on what we need to stop doing to our men.

I have been with my current boyfriend for over a year now, and we can easily say we are best friends. Despite this, I still find myself testing him. I will tell him he does not have to spend his time with me, but I really want him to prove that he would rather choose me. Now I do not do this often, but you would think it would not even be done once. More than just me, I know many girls that test their boyfriends every day. Girls, we need to stop testing our men. It’s manipulative, and if he were to do it to us it would be considered unhealthy.

There was one bullet I know I was not guilty of but I know several girls would be. This bullet stated, telling your boyfriend he cannot hang out with a friend because you are jealous or because you just do not like the person. Your man is allowed to have all the friends he wants, including girls. You should trust your man to tell people he is taken if they try to come onto them. If you cannot trust him to do that then you need to take a serious look at your relationship. I’m lucky because my boyfriend and I have so many common friends that I know a lot of his friends and like them. I am also lucky that I can trust my man. Don’t get me wrong I get jealous. I’m only human, but I will not tell him not to hang out with someone just because of my jealousy.

The bullet I think I was most guilty of was hitting my man, Now before you jump to conclusions I playfully smack or punch him when he says a sarcastic remark or calls me a name. I always saw this as us joking, and when I went to apologize after reading this brutal list he said he does not really mind. I just find it so strange that I can smack, punch, or kick my boyfriend as long as it was a “joke.” A man can rarely ever lay a hand on his girlfriend even as a joke without someone screaming abuse. Girls, I think it will be hard to do, but let’s try to not hit our men if we can help it. Let's spoil them like they are expected to spoil us.

Like I said earlier, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. For over a year I have been guilty of these actions, but after reading that list I can tell the world I do not plan on continuing. Hopefully, all girls will follow suit. If you expect him to treat you like a queen treat him like a king ladies.