Fortunately, I was that girl that thought she could change that "bad" boy. Yes, I am saying fortunately because I learned so much from this experience. It did suck at the time, but I have come to realization you can’t change people; they have to want to change on their own. I know, you have probably heard this a million times, but I am trying to warn girls out there about these "bad" boys before you waste your time "changing" them (well at least you think you are).

I was an innocent freshman and I fell for the "bad" boy. I knew he was bad news. Everyone had warned me. It was the way he talked and how he made me feel different, and that's what made him stand out. He didn’t treat me like he treated the other girls he had hooked up with in the past. He took me on dates (everyone thought that was weird). People would say things like, “Oh, he took you on a date? He never did that with me. He must really care about you.” At this point, I thought things actually had potential between us two and so did everyone else, including him.

Eventually, he fell for me and I fell for him. Everyone knew. We spent a year and a half together and had so many good times. We had a relationship that everyone wished was like theirs. People were so confused how I was the one who "changed" his ways. How did I make him settle for just one girl? Well, he didn’t settle. He was a liar and a cheat, a good one too. It turns out he had been unfaithful the entire relationship. No one knew, not even his closest friends. I was devastated when I found this out. Everyone was shocked, but at the same time, were we really that shocked? He was just being his "bad" boy self.

The thing with these "bad" boys is that when they meet the right girl, they genuinely want to settle down, but they just can’t. They have become so used to this lifestyle that they live that no matter how much they truly care, they can’t help themselves. They aren’t the boyfriend type (at least not at this age). I know he loved and cared about me and I am sure there are going to be "bad" boys in your life that will love and care about you. These are the boys you should stay clear of. They are going to hurt you. You might think it’s different with him this time, but it’s not. He is a typical ‘"bad" boy and will be a typical "bad" boy until he is old enough to realize that he was being dumb. They might mature in the future, but as of right now, they aren't the ones you should date. They aren't ready to change yet. Once they do change, they’ll realize they messed up big time with you and it'll be a little too late for them (but, hey that's their problem now).

So, to all you beautiful and intelligent girls, don’t waste time trying to change someone. Realize now that dating this type of boy will not work out. Instead, date the boys who know your worth at this point in life, and how valuable it is to have you.