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Girls, Don't Lose Yourself In A Relationship.

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Girls, Don't Lose Yourself In A Relationship.
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It’s great to be in love. It's great to be in love with someone who makes you feel amazing. It's even better to spend as much time as you can with them. You’re crazy about them so all you want to do is talk to them all day everyday and see them as much as you can. Nothing’s wrong with that right? Well….

Sometimes you need to know where to draw the line. I myself have lost myself because of a relationship and somehow everyone except me noticed it. Chances are we’ve all been in that kind of situation at some point. It sucks especially when you don’t realize it till it all ends.

So to those girls getting into or already in a relationship, don’t let it become the only thing you have.

Yah of course it is nice having this person all the time but you also need to have time to yourself and be independent. Don’t be that girl who has to always be with him and rely on him to make you happy. Make yourself happy.

When you’re in the honeymoon phase, its okay to spend a lot of time with your boyfriend and get to know them. It's kind of important to know who your dating. But a few months down the road please learn to separate a little. Don’t turn into that girl who dropped all her friends and isolated herself from her friends. Because by the chance that things don't work out with him, those are the people who are going to be there for you.

Remember before this relationship you had an amazing group of friends and an amazing family. Don’t forget about them. When your best friend calls just to chat, don’t blow her off. When your family wants to hang with you on a Friday night, do it. Your boyfriend can wait; there are plenty of other nights you can hang out with him. Chances are these people have been with you through your past relationships and were there to pick you up when it went bad. Don’t lose them because you gained someone new.

Am I saying that your new boyfriend can’t be your main focus? Absolutely not. What I am saying is that focusing on him shouldn’t be the only thing you do. Spend time with your friends. Spend time alone. Spend time with your dog (if you have one). Keep doing your favorite hobbies. Don't forget who you are. You’re going to need more then just your boyfriend to get through life. Build a support system; don’t push them away.

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