In high school, I had a really close guy friend that I spent a lot of time with. We'd been friends for years, and I thought our friendship was something that would last beyond high school. Sadly I was wrong. Our friendship ended in eleventh grade when his new girlfriend suddenly decided that I didn't need to be a part of his life anymore.
To the girl who stole my best friend, what you did was cruel. You removed me from your boyfriend's life because of your own insecurities. You lied about me and played the victim, all to get rid of me. You treated me in a way that no girl should ever treat another girl, and what you did has caused a tremendous amount of pain and heartache in my life.
You didn't just take away my best friend. You took away one of the biggest sources of joy in my life. You took away his humor and the way he'd make me laugh. You took away the hours we'd spend together and the days I thought I'd found a life-long friend. You took away the person that could calm my fears with a look and the face that I could never stay upset with. You took away one of the best people that God had ever given me, and I'll never be able to get that back.
One of the most special people in my life was taken from me because of you. I've spent a long time trying to figure out what I'm supposed to learn from what you did. I'm still not sure of what that is. All I know is that I will never, ever do to another girl what you did to me. You destroyed a blessing in my life, and I hope I never do something so cruel to someone, especially another girl.
It's truly sad that you did what you did. Controlling your boyfriend won't make your own insecurities disappear. It will make his life miserable, and it will leave you with no friends. I understand that it's easy to let insecurities sneak in, but acting on those insecurities and wrecking friendships is no way to act. If it weren't for your decision to ruin the friendship, I would've still had my best friend and maybe would've had a friend in you.
The only thing left for me to say to you is this: Love him. Love his quirks, love his sarcasm, love his pessimism, love his heart, love his goofiness, love his weird compliments, and love him for who he his. Don't try to change him, and don't treat him with the same recklessness you did me. And don't you dare take him for granted. You took my best friend from me. So love him.
