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To The Girl Who Only Dates The Bad Boys Because They Can 'Change,' It's Time To Actually Do What's Good For You

Stop trying to change the bad boy.

Kennedy Lane
Sep 23, 2019
Grand Canyon University
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To The Girl Who Only Dates The Bad Boys Because They Can 'Change,' It's Time To Actually Do What's Good For You
Kennedy Lane

You are probably the girl who dates the bad boy at school.

You can have any guy you want, but you choose to chase after the one who is showing no interest in you and couldn't care less about your existence, but you are fascinated by him anyway.

Fast forward and you actually start dating him. You have fun together and realize he actually has the potential of being a good guy. Maybe you can change him and let that potential fully come through.

And out of nowhere, he breaks your heart for some stupid reason. He makes you feel absolutely worthless. He not only breaks your heart but shatters a piece of your soul.

Let's face it, you can't change the bad boys, and it is time to stop trying.

As you are sobbing in the shower, you are probably thinking to yourself "I just want a good guy," begging for the pain to go away. You just want to be loved as much as you love others.

I get it because I've been there.

Listen sister, your guy is out there.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, put on a smile, hold your head up high, and move on.

Learn to love yourself first. Have confidence in who you are and know your worth. To have someone love you, you need to learn to love yourself first. How can you expect anyone else to love you if you do not even love yourself?

Open your eyes and realize the potential you have and the opportunities around you. Your perfect person may be closer than you think.

It is time to stop going after the bad guys. I know they are dangerous and exciting, but all they will do is hurt you.

If you truly want to find love, love yourself first and start looking for the good guys.

Be open to new experiences because you never know what is around the corner. Keep your head held high and know that you have a bright future ahead of you.

Do not close yourself off to the world. Let your light shine and show the world who you are and what you have to offer, and your perfect person will come when the time is right.

Stop trying to change the bad boys and trying to make them good. Find a good guy who will treat you with all of the love and respect you deserve.

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