To the Girl who’s been told she’s intimidating,

You know who you are; the girl who walks into the party and everything instantly gets louder. You’re the girl who draws looks and attention wherever she goes, yet you don’t try. You talk too much and have too many opinions. You aren’t doing anything different than any of your other girlfriends but somehow you are the one who will be talked about in the morning. It never really bothers you because for the most part you are having more fun than anyone else. The “intimidating girl” makes her own path, she dances to her own beat, and this makes your life both amazing and trying.

You never really think about how different you are from anyone else until someone tells you. You’re aggressive, loud, and intimidating… Why can’t you be like the other girls? And you’re sitting there thinking to yourself, “What makes you think I’m not?” The “intimidating girl” doesn’t go marching around asking others why they’re not the first ones on the dance floor or why they don’t scream when their favorite song comes on the radio. We are just living our lives, so it’s baffling to us when others don’t do the same. What makes it okay to question qualities that make up the very fiber of someone’s personality and brand them with such negativity?

So for all the people who ask these questions and for the girls who have sat at home trying to answer them I would like to say, I’m sorry. I’m sorry you weren’t raised to accept others as they are. I’m sorry you are trying to push you own insecurities onto others by pointing out what you see as flaws. We intimidating girls do not see ourselves as flawed. We see ourselves as something that shines. Maybe it’s different and maybe it’s not for everyone but that’s ok.

The girl you called aggressive was actually raised to be self-assured and outgoing. The one who intimidates you was told not to let herself be manipulated. If that scares you, well, maybe it should. Maybe you aren’t strong enough for her, but don’t try to break her down. These are the women who will change the world. Every day another girl is being raised to be outgoing, and proud and ready to live in a world that is constantly telling her what she can’t do, constantly telling her how she should act. If we are going to make it out there you better believe we might need to be a little intimidating and a little aggressive.

Signed,

The Girl Who’s Not Afraid to Be Intimidating.