Girl, I’m right there with you.

As a sophomore in college coming up on her 20th rotation around the sun, many of my family members seem more and more interested in my social/love life. I constantly get asked if I am dating anybody and if I am interested in anyone. The truth is though, I’ve never actually been in a relationship.

To many people, they find this part of me quite shocking. Maybe it’s because I’m almost 20 years old or maybe it’s because it’s something they weren’t really expecting. After I reveal this part of myself, others will start to ask me questions like “Why don’t you have one?” or “Don’t you want one?” or my favorite, “Do you ever get lonely?”

To be quite honest with you, I don’t know. I don’t really have an answer to these questions because I’ve never given them much thought. I want to be known as someone other than “that girl that has never dated anyone.”

Having a boyfriend must be nice I suppose, but of course, I wouldn’t know what it’s like. But like I tell my family, having a significant other isn’t the most important thing in the world. Yes, I get lonely sometimes, yes I would like to have one, but, the perfect man will come around eventually.

So, to my ladies that have never had a boyfriend, it is not the end of the world. Your prince charming is out there. Focus on yourself in the meantime. Having someone by your side isn’t what defines you or makes you successful. Surround yourself with a great group of friends and your loving family. A man will walk into your life eventually. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe, you just haven’t met someone worthy of your love just yet.